Re: to date your husband?!
^ No i am not being sarcastic
If one has a nikkah, and is going to have a typical cultural wedding, then they should also adhere to a few simple cultural norms as well.
Also, i think i should add
parents say ALOT of things when ideas are floating, but majority of the time, when reality hits, they tend to soften their stance on certain things.
So if right now your mom says "no, u cannot see ur spouse after nikkah" while you dont even have a rishta, very big chance that after hte nikkah she wqill be more relaxed.