to date your husband

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Hi,

I just had an argument with my mother regarding Nikkah:
I said if a couple with nikkah (but no rukhsati) are allowed to go out for dinner, shopping whatever they want as they are husband and wife.

Whereas my mum disagress and says that it isnt allowed because no rukhsati has happened.

I know this is wrong, my mum doesnt see the couple as husband and wife because she ‘read’ somewhere that they aren’t living under one roof.

Now i was going to say that just because the marriage hasnt been ‘completed’ doesnt make them any lesser husband and wife to each other, they are married!!
But i feel embarrassed discussing such matters with my mother so i didnt say anything, only that I will show her by authentic hadith that to ‘date’ ones husband before living with him is HALAAL!!

but I was wondering if anyone can quote me or direct me towards an authentic haadith which states that husband and wife with just nikkah can hang out. Preferably in urdu and english (as my mum’s 1st language is urdu) so i can say to her SEE MUM I WAS RIGHT!! lol

I would be very much obliged.
Thank you.

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Re: to date your husband

ive been told your not allowed to go out unless your married.

Timepass - March 2013
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Re: to date your husband

Islamically, You are married right after nikkah took place. Everything else after that like mehendi, shaadi, walima,rukhsati, mayyo etc.. are all the useless formalities of marriage, inspired by indian culture.

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but, IIRC when i was in pak i remember the couple signing documents on the shaadi.

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After nikaah husband and wife are 'halal' to each other. Your mom's position is wrong and not based on religion. There is no concept of 'rukhsati' in religion, hence it will not be possible to find anything religious on it.

BTW: Why post same thread in Life?

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^^ Exactly i agree !...

Rukhsati is not in our religion, we have just made this a tradition the real thing is the Nikkah !