Yeah my parents never allowed me to dance at functions cuz we are "shareef log" but i whole heartedly disagreed all my life and I definitely will not put my children through the pain of sitting out entire weddings with nothing to look forward to besides a plate of biryani and maybe some cake at the end. i don't see how its ok for paki women to go around wearing saris with their backs, deep neck, entire tummy showing but a 16yr old girl in a shalwar kamiz cant dance cuz there's guys around. umm okk. like bhangra is sooo seductive.
I definitely will not put my children through the pain of sitting out entire weddings with nothing to look forward to besides a plate of biryani and maybe some cake at the end.
Same here. I hope they have at least one of two varieties of meat, perhaps a nice veggie dish and it's nice to have some dessert other than just cake. Of course I will also try to raise them to not be so spoiled that they'll complain if biryani and cake end up being the only things to eat at that wedding.
Where I live, people don't dance at weddings (unless its the groom/grooms friends/brothers/male cousins dancing in their entrance). It just isn't the done thing. We have the nikkah and reception and then the rukhsuti follows. I don't know if the dancing at the actual wedding is a recent phenomenon or something done more in Pakistan/US because I haven't seen it done at any UK weddings I've been to.
In our family, we were never banned from dancing at mehndis but we never chose to do it (maybe we are just bores lol) and it's something I've never done, and something I wouldn't encourage my children to do, male or female.
A close friend of mine has asked me to dance at her upcoming mehndi in a couple of months time, it will be all girls but I've still said no. Because I just wouldn't be comfortable with it.
Yeah my parents never allowed me to dance at functions cuz we are "shareef log" but i whole heartedly disagreed all my life and I definitely will not put my children through the pain of sitting out entire weddings with nothing to look forward to besides a plate of biryani and maybe some cake at the end. i don't see how its ok for paki women to go around wearing saris with their backs, deep neck, entire tummy showing but a 16yr old girl in a shalwar kamiz cant dance cuz there's guys around. umm okk. like bhangra is sooo seductive.
Same here. I hope they have at least one of two varieties of meat, perhaps a nice veggie dish and it's nice to have some dessert other than just cake. Of course I will also try to raise them to not be so spoiled that they'll complain if biryani and cake end up being the only things to eat at that wedding.
I do like dancing, but only when it’s just females present. I’ve never danced in front of males before (even members of my family) and it’s likely I never will. Tbh a lot of my cousins have no problem dancing in front of males but I’d feel very uncomfortable and I doubt my dad would be impressed either
I guess it depends on how suggestive the song and dance is. I was at a mendhi recently where the sisters and female cousins of the bride did a dance to “zara zara touch me touch me” from Race with all the male relatives present! I felt uncomfortable having to sit there and watch it let alone even consider dancing to a song like that!
Same here. I hope they have at least one of two varieties of meat, perhaps a nice veggie dish and it's nice to have some dessert other than just cake. Of course I will also try to raise them to not be so spoiled that they'll complain if biryani and cake end up being the only things to eat at that wedding.
if many parents does not allow their daughters to dance in mixed gathering, why are they normally OK with their son dancing b/w na-mehram girls? hypocrisy, isnt it?
Oh gosh, I tried this type of logic on my mom many years ago...it just didn't cut it as they are ultra conservative. Now that I am married, my hubby doesn't care too much, but I myself feel awkward when I am pulled onto dance floor at a wedding.
How could I forget the nan. I think that makes a reasonable menu. That and the tea and/or coffee. If I have those things at a wedding (assuming they're reasonably good) then I'm very happy. Of course need no need to complain if they don't have each of the items I mentioned. We should be grateful we get something to eat.
Same here. I hope they have at least one of two varieties of meat, perhaps a nice veggie dish and it's nice to have some dessert other than just cake. Of course I will also try to raise them to not be so spoiled that they'll complain if biryani and cake end up being the only things to eat at that wedding.
How could I forget the nan. I think that makes a reasonable menu. That and the tea and/or coffee. If I have those things at a wedding (assuming they're reasonably good) then I'm very happy. Of course need no need to complain if they don't have each of the items I mentioned. We should be grateful we get something to eat.
Same here. I hope they have at least one of two varieties of meat, perhaps a nice veggie dish and it's nice to have some dessert other than just cake. Of course I will also try to raise them to not be so spoiled that they'll complain if biryani and cake end up being the only things to eat at that wedding.
HAHA...good one fat spartan. maybe if i was as blessed as you in my thought about weddings, my nick would also be fat-pkgrl :)
If you're really worried about the calories, then you should wait at an hour and a half after your meal before you try any activity that would be any significant help in working them off. So if you learn to just enjoy the food, you'll most likely enjoy the wedding too.
I felt uncomfortable having to sit there and watch it let alone even consider dancing to a song like that!