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Donald Trump says the same thing.
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There are so many dawats among the desis where I live that I don’t exoect them to bring something each time. My rule is, if I am going there the first time or if it’s an occasion that warrants gift giving. Usually, I have seen people text a group or individual message saying thanks for coming and for the gifts. But usually yes, desis lack etiquette . Yes, our religion and culture teaches that but we are slowly turning away from it.
I agree that we are becoming more material in our values. Even goras have changed and they used to be nicer. Not everyone ( desi or non desi) but in general.
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You and Don do share some parallels.
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He was voted in and many share his belief that people who violently hate this society should not be here. I am a liberal at heart though.
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Oh Bob, if you look down on desis so much…then you shouldn’t be here on this predominantly Desi forum. You seem to have taken it upon yourself to reform the folks on here with your personal development training. They don’t need it. And not quite the parallels I was thinking of; had more to do with personality than political beliefs.
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There are some very awesome people here, not everyone here is like you.
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what about if you had a wedding, and your friends - lets say a couple didnt give gou anything. And then on THEIR wedding you dont give to them as well?
Hisaab barabar right?
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The essence of gifting is lost amidst all this.
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I would say you should define your own set of rules/principles. If you feel like you should bring a gift, then do that.
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My rules would be if they had financial challenges then I would bring a gift, if they were rude and disrespectful I wouldn’t attend their wedding or socialise with them.
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Sooo, here (in the USA) it is proper to send a thank you note after the event has taken place. It is appropriate to say Thank You to the person if it was received in person, but a thank you card/note is still formal and expected.
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we always say thanks. not only to the guests who come up with gifts, but also to the ones who come without gifts and it makes sense to thank them and appreciate the efforts they make to attend your party/event.
i personally thank guest in person during the event and then later on i send thank note via sms/whtsapp too.
this is not only for the guests but in general we pay thanks to everyone who does something for you. Like i say thank you to my office lift operator every day-though its part of his job and some people might argue why say thanks to someone for doing what he is supposed to do. me and my team mates say thanks to the peon we send out to bring lunch/snacks for us, besides giving him some extra bucks and that too is form of thanking someone.
All my nieces,nephews have a habit of making small cute thank you notes/cards and we teach them several ways of thanking people.
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How do you get peons even the president of our company does not have peons