For those of you who had kids sleeping in your rooms, how did you transition them to their own rooms? What process did you go through? Any advice would be much appreciated!
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My sister has a toddler; she bought him the bed he wanted (the one that looks like a car); and my bhanja loved it. he moved out happily.
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^what if you dont want to buy anything like that?
my son has been seeping in his crib for a long time in our room but he also wakes up when I move in and out of the room so we will be moving him in his room soon inshaAllah. He will still be in his crib so he wont have that option of getting out and coming to our room but I am definitely looking for ideas.
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Number one tip: Listen to your kid. When he’s ready, he’ll let you know.
Sahar, I know yours is ready and you did so good letting her decorate it and being there for her as and when she misses you. I wouldn’t do anything differently!
Gtg, he’s ready for sure but like sahar did, get him involved and excited. And reinforce that this is his bed and his room. I keep telling mine it’s his space and when I make the bed in the morning, I ask him to help me. He passes me the pillows. When I put laundry away in his room, he helps with that too. And I picked out this cute bedding from Ikea with construction vehicles on it and he was so excited to see it in his room. You have to promote ownership and a sense of pride in having your own space. And you have such a good kid- I’m sure he will adjust in no time!
I’m working on his toddler room now and putting in things that I know he’s interested in. I want to create a space that is entirely his with all of his favourite things. He deserves that 
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Cold turkey worked for both my kids… They both made me do the ten thousand trips to the room to pacify them like u see in super nanny … But it worked out great…aariz took a week… Genie took 3 days.
Your girl is older than my kids were… And mote understanding… Firm but loving would be the way to go.
You have done a great job in setting up her room according to her tstes… It shouldnt be too hard… Thou they say age 4 is when they start really testing e boundries…
Im thirsty, im hungry, i gotta pee, i gotta poo… My bed is warm, my Ankles hurt…etc lol …right on the dot aariz has been doing this since he turned 4 …its so funny.
But he gors right bk to his bed …
Its super u r doing this now before thte baby comes… Cuz they shriek like banshees in the dead of night and wake up the older kids and before u know it… Its a party !
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A friend of mine did a weird thing but it worked for them…
So her son was just not getting the hang of it… Sleeping alone… At 3… Nothing worked… He just wanted assurance that she was there… How to do that in sep rooms??
So she got a super long skip rope… And she would hold one part in her room… And her son would hold the other part in his bed… (the rooms were close together)… And whenever he would feel ansty… He would tug at it… And she would tug back. … This kept him relaxed that mommy is ere… And thats how he fot trained… No more rope now… He is a 5 yr old now.
Isnt that crZy? Hehe.
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^ that’s really cute! And really smart of her!
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So it seems like we should make sure to:
- involve the toddler in the planning/decor/selection, so that s/he feels a sense of ownership toward the room.
- accept the fact the first few nights may involve disrupted sleep, stay calm, and help reassure the child.
- truly believe that this is the right thing to do. Your own doubts will only be exacerbated by guilt-trips from grandparents and your child, so you really need to be sure you want to do this and then remain firm and consistent.
- make sure the child’s fears/concerns are heard and addressed in one way or another.
- find a way to reassure the child of your presence in the house if needed (whether that’s through an extra long piece of string – love this!, multiple trips back into the child’s room, sitting with the child, allowing the child to come and go as s/he pleases initially, etc).
- praise the child for his achievements/progress. Acknowledge improvement.
Anything else?
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I put both my girls in their own room when the older one was 2.5 and the little one was still in her crib, we took both to the store and picked out their captain beds, at least the older one understood she is going to be in her own big girl’s room, we had anticipated it would be hard but it wasn’t at all alhamdulilah for us
I believe it starts right at birth for easier transition such as this one, GET A BED TIME ROUTINE If your child is on a routine i.e can fall asleep on their own at the same time every night it will be so much easier!!!
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MAKE THE CHILD’S ROOM AND BED INVITING** few things we did were that we made their room very inviting and kid friendly, their ‘dora’ posters and stickers/clouds around the room, my daughter picked her own bedding/pillows for her bed, helps them feel grown up and independent.
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REASSURE YOUR CHILD THAT YOU ARE CLOSE BY** we kept reminding the girls that mommy n daddy are only next door so if you need anything or have a bad dream just call for us, so far we have only been called a handful times, but they are both pretty good at sleeping on their own now, so this has helped this process much easier with the exception of bathroom calls at night (once) they are still afraid of going alone at night even though we have night lights in their room/bathroom, I am hoping that can change soon enough too