!) tips on how to be a successful husband

LP · November 8, 2009, 2:11pm

my sartaj does all of tehre

10 Tips: How to be a Successful Husband

Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!

Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

Don’t be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: “The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.” Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta’ala knows best !!

PS:let this stay in cafe’ please

inzi_rocks · November 8, 2009, 2:13pm

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Awwwh nice post :k:

rabika · November 8, 2009, 2:13pm

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^^^and u think that ppl wud think abt following these tips????

LP · November 8, 2009, 2:15pm

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inzu i know

rabika
oh yess some pp lstill do in htis age

inzi_rocks · November 8, 2009, 2:16pm

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well they should, ya

but their wives should be good wives too,… and not like those u find in thsi day and age :hinna:

Gaia · November 8, 2009, 2:18pm

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Mine should read this:vivo:

rabika · November 8, 2009, 2:21pm

LP: mey Qurbaan jaoon apney Nabi Kareem (s.a.w.w) per...Un(s.a.w.w) sey berh ker azeem tou koi insaan ho hi nahin sakta...

u know if you tell these ahadith to sum ppl and want them to be kind to thr wives accordingly they literally say that" plz dun bring religion inbetween .....

KKF · November 8, 2009, 2:21pm

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i'm a BORN perfecty husband to be...no1 can beat me...absolutely no1...the key to success is: LISTEN TO UR WIFE 24/7 :)

LP · November 8, 2009, 2:21pm

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inzu i’m a good biwi

gaia n tehre is thread for u to read too

inzi_rocks · November 8, 2009, 2:21pm

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Awww Gaia

LP · November 8, 2009, 2:22pm

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rabika iasa nahi hai i know someone who is like this

hashmat sahab :no: u r wrong

rabika · November 8, 2009, 2:22pm

Walikum Assalam!

surprise

inzi_rocks · November 8, 2009, 2:22pm

And for wives:

TRUST UR HUSBANDS.

rabika · November 8, 2009, 2:24pm

no not really.....

KKF · November 8, 2009, 2:25pm

then? what is it? ** women love to have it their way or noway :)**

KKF · November 8, 2009, 2:26pm

true…even if he lying thru the teeth if his teeth are clean and white

Gaia · November 8, 2009, 2:29pm

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Lp, really:@:

Inzi-how it going with E6??? does he share his twix with you?

rabika · November 8, 2009, 2:35pm

respect ,trust, mutual understanding or mental compatibility,…for me love cums at last…cuz it just happens…but if u dun respect/trust ur partner ,dun value him/her ,dun care abt thr self respect…u wont be able to live ur life the way u want it to b…

u can disagree!

inzi_rocks · November 8, 2009, 2:35pm

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Yes he offered to but I didnt really want any. But he said that whats his is mine anyway so twix is equally mine now

inzi_rocks · November 8, 2009, 2:36pm

:k: