Re: Time to man up!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow sorry to have stirred your sensibilities, I did not realize that the word appreciate is so objectionable, and the notion of supporting victims of abuse is so abhorrent that it makes you cringe. This is interesting that when helpless women are dragged out of their homes and publicly raped in front of hundreds and thousands of onlookers you don't manifest your displeasure by cringing, but the word appreciate makes you cringe, the rape and abduction of the Nigerian girls! does that make you cringe.
*So, just because some posters cringe at your writing style, it can only mean that they are zalim laug who would laugh at the sight of a woman being raped? Seriously? Appreciation of your posts IS NOT a prerequisite to feeling concern for victims of abuse; stop treating it as such. Fikar na karo, many of the people here who disapprove of posts are quite capable of cringing and even crying at the mere hearing of abuse let alone the witnessing of it. *
god forbid one day it happens to any of us, I am sure we will appreciate the good man that present themselves to support and help. Push the divorced women aside as if they are garbage and treat them like plague that is okay by the so called socialites but the word appreciate will make them fly of the handle.
*The good man will be easier to appreciate if he quits shoving his "naikiyan" and other good deeds down our throat so very often. Let me give you more milder examples than abuse. There are women in their 30s and 40s that are single. If a younger guy marries one, should he go around telling people that I married an older woman and she's so appreciative of the favor I did her and now she makes my life a heaven? How about the example of someone who is poor and marries a person more well-to-do...Should the latter go around saying, "Look how big hearted I was that I married someone living in poverty and gave them a better life and they're so appreciative that they try their best to please me in every way? Or how about marrying someone who has a disability, would the latter appreciate it if their spouse went around saying, "I had mercy on this crippled or disadvantaged person and outcast of society and married them and they are so grateful that they have proved to be better spouses than the more fully formed and well-functioning people out there. It's commendable that you care about abused women, but that care needs to reflect in language as well. Your words need to take into account the woman's izzat, her privacy, etc. Rape is a heinous crime, but people can also strip a woman of her dignity merely through their language...which can also make her feel naked, ashamed, violated. *
NOW MAN UP and answer the question, will you or not consider marrying a victim of rape, if you do not answer the question please don't bother with me again.
And if the men here don't answer your question, does that make them "lesser" men? Knight, I don't like bringing in family, but I will do so with the intention to make a point and not to take a dig at you. And if you feel insulted, do keep in mind that you attacked my upbringing first. Anyhow, did your father marry a victim of abuse? If not, does that mean he failed as a man or is less of a man? How about your brother? Despite you strongly encouraging your sons to marry divorced/abused women, what if one of them falls in love with an "out if the wrapper" girl and marries her? Does that mean your upbringing failed....or that he is less of a man....or would you be more lenient toward your son and tell us that there is more than one way to be a man? And if so, then you need to quit being so judgmental of others' level of religiosity and manliness. Stop testing people with such questions.
