The writing style may come across as patronizing. But folks started attacking rather than just look at the message. IMO. I think in post 1 OP was simply trying to get the message across that maybe folks should consider marrying women who may have had unfortunate experience. I did see lots of sarcasm in page 1. Such as (I am paraphrasing) “I wouldn’t start with battered woman if looking for a bride”. That type of responses framed subsequent posts in this thread.