My daughter is 4. She goes to preschool 3 days a week. Its so hard to manage time with her.
She needs more than 1 hour to get ready for school and even sleep at night.
At night she would sit on toilet for no reason or keep playing with water wen brushing.
Same in the morning. She takes 30 min to eat 1 slice of bread.
I keep telling her to finish watever she is doing.
I dnt want to shout at her
I dnt know how can I improve on her timings.
She is gud at school. Loves paintings and books. Mentally and physically she is above average.
Co incidence.. my daughter turned 4 in Jan .. she started preschool this year too… I just breath deeply when she takes her sweet A time getting in the car and I am standing there waiting to close the door…For eating same story.. I have her favorite fruit dessert sitting on the side just to motivate her to finish so she could have it. Brushing is also a struggle. She hates all kinds of toothpastes.. I have tried all kinds.. none is what she would take happily.. basically I just slow down with her.. pushing her makes her nervous and she thinks i am mad..
My daughter turned 4 this january too.
I need do much time in chanhing her clothes, brushing, sleeping and ofcourse eating. Just want her to b little quicker as im due next week and also b starting work in july.
I used to have the same problem with my 2 year old…but I’ve learned to not let it be my problem if HE is taking long to finish something. So for example, eating slowly. I give him all his food and I sit next to him and eat as well. When I am finished, I get up and move on to washing dishes etc. He is perfectly capable of finishing his food on his own time its not like he needs (or even wants) me to feed him by hand. So he eats his food, afterwards will throw the remainder in trash, and bring me the plate so I can wash it. (I have a mini dining/play table for him in the kitchen, and I sit on the mini chair right next to him when we eat. Dad is sometimes forced to sit with us too, lol.) But this makes me not worry about him jumping off the highchair or something crazy, and he can independently eat in peace and move on to play when he is finished. Yes there is a huuuge mess under the table when he is done, but that mess would be there even if I sat next to him cuz when mom says “no” he takes it to mean “its funny when I do this”.
Same for brushing teeth, he LOVES to play with water and I hate wasting it. But, i’ve given up. Now I have a stool for him in the bathroom. He gets up on top of it, I give him his brush with toothpaste and he can brush, not brush, play with water, whatever to his heart’s content. I stay in the vicinity, but generally can do laundry, sort things out in the bathroom, etc while he’s busy with this part. I don’t stand next to him watching and getting impatient. Instead, I use that energy to clean up the mess around the sink when he is done. lol
p.s. you might think, well that means he’s not eating much or brushing his teeth properly etc. but actually, I notice that when I leave him alone without the pressure and nudging he eats better and without fuss. similarly, if i tell him to brush his teeth, its screaming and crying all the way. but if i’m busy with chores and just peeking, he actually brushes more to get my attention since he knows i will be pleased when I see him do it and probably give a few words of praise
Kids have their own pace of doing things, you have to show patience and give em space to learn things gradually! Make sure your daughter has a routine set for each morning at the SAME time for e.g: brushing teeth/bath/getting dressed/breakfast, It takes a lot of time but you will get there iA, in order for you to make your morning less stressful, do some work the night before like putting out her clothes/accessories etc - so that way you are not rushing yourself
As I m hme nw she stays with me or goes to my bros house (opposite to my house) to play eith my nephews. Infact she doesnt want to come hme mostly (we used to live together in one house).
Her sleeping, eating routine is same.
Luking at last night, I do brush her teeth at night and she does in the morning; I was trying to make her open her mouth while she is playing with water. She would spit paste out, nt open her mouth or do something else.
Than she wanted quick shower. I had talked to her if she wanted bubble bath we can start early bt no. When in shower she held shower screen from inside, while standing under water she is drawing on shower screen as theres steam.
Im waiting for her to let go of it and I can apply shampoo bt shes nt listening.
Than bed time she wasted her storytime/bed plsy time by playing with her dad. Wen I told her its bed time she wants story and playtime meaning another hour or so.
I dnt know if something wrong with me or wat. I dnt have patience. Maybe she’s taking long.
With food she wont eat herself other than breakfast and I feed her. This way I know if she has eaten enough so can sleep gud at night.
So does she wake up at the same time as on school mornings? Does she have breakfast at the same time and with the same urgency or is the approach a much more relaxed one?
It just sounds like you are giving in to her requests…maybe there is a discipline issue?
Afterall…a child this young typically doesn’t understand what an hour really is. So if she was playing with daddy when it was bedtime, she wasn’t wasting time…she was enjoying her herself. It was daddy and/or mommy’s responsibility to get her on her way to bed because daddy and mommy know that she will still want her normal bed time routine even if she has spent and extra hour playing.
I don’t see anything wrong with you. I think you may be just tired with your pregnancy and perhaps expecting a bit too much from the little one.
My daughter is the same way but I think she is spoiled. So I try not to buy things for her but instead spend time with her, cook things she and I like, watch cartoons. Also I set a side a time just for me so that I won’t be exhausted a the end of the day.
It works cause I’m a workaholic just like you. Do you play sports? I use to play tennis so I teach her that so at night she sleeps wells. Also I am a big fan of soccer.
i just got it/// little girl is anxious about the new baby coming and how the things will change… i just saw the whole shower …holding the screen scene in my head( seriously) like a psychic vision..
The kid is anxious/ nervous about you having another baby… give her a hugg and tell her that every thing will be fine and same like now.. meaning new baby will not change anything.. i dunno i am just getting all this in my head out of no where.. i could be wrong..
