i am mom of a toddler..he is mashAllah so active and drives me crazy by the end of the day(i have no help here,have to manage all house chores too)..my baby sleeps very little during day time and i end up having no time for myself at allll..i am planning to continue my studies..i really want to!!..plz help me how should i manage time with the kid..i need atleast 2-3 hours daily for studying and one hour for workout..i am really unable to manage time and this is leading to frustrating and depressing life[emoji852]️…i need advices and motivation from moms of kids here..plz help me with ur kind words..thanks alot..
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Day Care
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no i dont want to do that ..thanks
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Husband could help and look after kid while you can go to college.
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sorry i didnt mention..i am not going to college ..i am doing a certification and i just need to take exams,no classes for that…but it requires lots of study..
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What are your available help at home? Dada Dadi.. or Nana Nani house
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no ..its just me n my hubby..no family in the country..
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Is it possible for your husband to help you ?
How old is your baby?
Baby sitter?
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i dont have the option of baby sitter..its too expensive here..husband has tough routine and he comes homw
late..its only ME who has to manage..thats y i have asked about time management so that ladies who have done everything on their own can help me here..otherwise these options could make my life easier..
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and baby is 1.5 year
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Is it possible to complete cooking on weekend while husband at home?.. When baby sleep on workday during day… you can start your study.
You can create activities for your kid… blocks, car, etc.. Keep baby busy in toys while you study. 
Call your mother to stay with you till you complete your certification and she can baby sit.
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cooking on weekends is a nice idea..thanks for that [emoji4].. i have tried many times that my baby plays with the toys etc but he is too clingy..he just wants to be around me wherever i am [emoji1] and unfortunately my mother is no more in the world so thats not an option either for me..
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What about getting a maid and also a set time for the toddler to play at a nearby park?
Go to the library with ur books and things. They usually have child/toddler classes, and a play area for kids. It’s quite safe and quiet, u can study there.
Also, get ur baby in the habit of a strict routine, if he doesn’t have one already. Rhat way during his nap time u can study. When i was in school, i made food early in the day on the weekends forthe whole week. I also made sure to put my son to bed at 8PM every day. After 9, i was free to do whatever. We ate dinner around 6/7, since it was ready to eat. U will have to get used to between 4-5 hrs of sleep during that time ur in school/studying… but what got me thru it was just knowing it was temporary. I used every spare minute, during school and home, to study or get some chore done.
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I work full time, have a preschooler (who is in full time school,) finishing my MBA online and currently 8 months pregnant AH!!
Here are few things i do:
I cook and clean on the weekends only.
I also have a cleaning lady come once a month
I freeze extra food and always have it ready for my picky eater
my husband helps out as well - he does laundry and dishes on the weekends,
your baby should have an early bed time, if he doesn’t work on one ASAP. My son is in bed by 9ish and i study after that.
for working out, i would suggest getting a jogging stroller and going running with him.
Also, not sure where are you located, but we have a lot of desi aunties who charge VERY little ($3-4 per hour) to babysit at their own place. Try to find someone like that via masjid.
hope this helps.
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Put him in Sunday school at your local mosque. That will give you time. Also try to arrange something with another mom in your situation (many ladies trying to study for usmle with kids) and arrange play dates where you take turns studying and babysitting each other’s kids.
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I’m very much in the same position. I have a 1.5 year old toddler and I can’t imagine being able to study or work from home unless I were to put him in nursery or send him to a child-minder or, as mentioned above be okay with only 5 hrs sleep. Personally, I’m not okay with any of those things, so I’m just accepting my life as it is for now.
Like you, I don’t have any family nearby or anyone to help out. My husband works long and often irregular hours and also needs to study when he’s not at work, so the support on that front is limited. My son is extremely active and either wants to be involved with what I’m doing or wants me nearby, there’s virtually no independent play as yet. He does have a good routine and has a late morning nap but typically it’s a race against the clock to get stuff done when he’s asleep. I try to do as much household work as I can together with him, which is amusing because now he’s always taking the dustpan and brush out, trying to vacuum or will want to press the buttons when I load the washing machine. But this way, you get your work done (even if it takes longer) and your toddler is kept entertained.
If I need to be showered and ready to go out in the morning before his nap time, I need to wake up before he is awake to get ready. Otherwise I have to wait until his nap time to be able to shower and do the things that are off-limits the other times (i.e. anything involving my laptop). I try to keep dinner early and he’s usually asleep by 8pm, but after this I do need to go and do all the dishes and clean up the kitchen so it’s about 9pm until I’m actually free and I’m pretty knackered. Unfortunately, even if I haven’t cooked that day, there’s always plenty to clean up after he’s asleep 
I would definitely try to limit your cooking to as few a days as possible. This has not so far been much of an option for me because he is extremely fussy and even if hubby and I eat something I made the day before, I still end up making something extra/different for my son. If you can, be dressed and ready for the day before he is up and then after breakfast try to do things that will tire him out (maybe take him outside so he can run about). If he gets tired out, he may nap more regularly and/or sleep for longer so that you can use nap time for study. Like everyone has said, a strict bedtime means you can potentially study after he’s gone to bed. For the workout, like the household chores, see if there’s anything you can do whilst he is awake that involve him, like rabia’s idea of the jogging stroller or some kind of workout using bodyweight that you can do whilst he is in the room.. you might need to split it up into 3 x 20 min sessions.
I would say that I don’t expect everything to fall into place overnight. You will need to start working on making time to do your things by implementing changes and it might be a slower process than you want, but don’t give up, just keep trying. I think as parents of unpredictable little ones we need to accept that some days can just be a write-off, so it doesn’t matter if one day goes badly, just try again the next day. I have said to all my friends that don’t have kids yet, that life with my toddler is faaar more tiring than when I was working full time with a horrendous commute.
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Don’t cook everyday and use paper plates as much as you can. Cooking creates a lot of dirty dishes. Tell your husband its only temporary. There are pre school classes for 18 month olds too. Try putting hm there. Ask your local school district or even Church schools. There are many churches that welcome children of all faiths and don’t teach faith based education. Church schools are quite cheap.
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i can relate to each n everything u sed about ur baby[emoji51]..thanks alot for the detailed reply..definitely a help[emoji106][emoji7]
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A family operates as a unit. So when you say you’re trying to manage alone, you are breaking up a unit and creating two.
Create a way for your husband to help you. My husband works a really tough schedule as well but I make him help me however he can. Its not a big deal…most husbands help with the kids despite working full time.
And as S_Punk suggested…create a stringent routine for him. I tire my toddler out by nap time so he can sleep. We wake up early, have breakfast, go about our day and play until he’s so exhausted he gives me the cue for a nap. There has to be structure otherwise you’ll constantly be playing catch up and actually never catch up.