Hi guys so im 22 a guy. Recently, while driving with my dad, he casually brought up my marriage. He told me that the next time we visit Pakistan, he wants me to ‘meet’ a few people. This has been in my head ever since, I don"t know how serious he is but I definitely don"t want to committ at such a young age lol. Knowing my dad, he is not forceful at all or anything but for some reason I am still a bit concerned. Anyhow, my question is thia: how can I overcome my fear of approaching women , I have always wanted to find someone on my own, preferbally from here (U.S) but my lack of experience and skills has always been a roadblock.
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I’m just going to go ahead and give you the cliche “be yourself” line, because in all honesty, that works. Don’t put pressure on yourself for this process, because a) you’re still quite young and have a lot of time ahead b) marriage isn’t supposed to be done in a hurry, take your time with finding the one you’re looking for.
In regards to women, just like men, no two are alike. When talking to someone, try and connect. Listen to them and then respond. A smooth flowing conversation is better than anything else. That’s the first thing i personally look for. If a guy can’t even keep a conversation going for 5 minutes without an awkward silence, it’s probably not going to work out BUT that doesn’t mean you give up on the person. You try again, everyone deserves a second chance. If they can’t get the conversation going, you try. Try and make the situation as comfortable as possible.
It’s alright to be nervous, all smart women get that at least one person in the meeting is going to be nervous. Sometimes it’s the guy, sometimes it’s the girl. It’s important that you be yourself through this process because she wants to spend the rest of her life with you, not a "version"of you. Just take your time with it, smile and be confident. Smiling is very important, at least when i look at people. Being approachable and having a decent amount of confidence works wonders.
There is no definite guide on how to approach people, everyone will give you their own perspective on it. The smart thing to do is find the things that best apply to you and then go with that.
Best of luck and take it easy. Inshallah, when it’s meant to be, it will 
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Yes, but don’t ever smile like Zardari 
(or may be girls like Zardari smile, I don’t know!!!)
@OP
Dude, at 22 you should be open to new ideas and happy to meet new people. Don’t take it as make or break thing, there is always another chance, just don’t put yourself in a shell and hide there. At least not when you are this young! Go on interact with her and see how things proceed.
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hahaha.. no way. I dont think any sane woman likes Zardari (we are not counting money hungry ones here.. read: Ayan Ali) lol. Smile, as in the natural, heart pleasing smile
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Tell dad u want a US girl and won’t consider a paki.
Then, you won’t find a proper US girl.
Then, you have more time.
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If you are a faggot, then just come of the closet. If you are not, time to wanna get married and get laid brother. you are a 22 year old man, not a 14 year old virgin girl.
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Approach a woman and make it all about her. She’ll be putty in your hands.
Source: Tried and tested method of badabing
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so people only get married to get laid? you must have been really desperate…
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no. People should get married AT LEAST to get laid. cmon. everyone needs to get laid.
and just to give some perspective for this panzy boy. Alexander the great was appointed as the king by his father at age 20. by 32 he had conquered most of the world, and had like 2 official wives and 4 official children, and this 22 year old is crying about his periods.
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Erm Alexander the Great was able to comfortably house, clothe and feed his wives and kids..
You’re making out the OP is immature for wanting to wait to marry when most sane people would say the opposite..
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Thank you!
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Never thought of it from that perspective. Cool thnx man.
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@Deeba1234 Dude ls pretty immature. If he is real..then he is not even a guy or 22. just read it. Every 22 year old girl or guy ive known been wanting to deal with hormonal rage for ever and traditional muslim ppl start seeking marriage partner…not post panzy “oh im too young for marriage…touch me not”
Girls only talk like that these days: " ooh im too young…i wanna meet Raj in Europe fall in love make him put up with my emotional torture and then get married by making every responsible man in my life spend their life savings and additional bank debt while i sit like the prettiest wreck on stage so the photographers can photoshop everything later to live happily ever after"
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:omg:you are mad.
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let me know if you figure out a way to overcome your skills and experience. I might need little help.
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Yikes. That sounded crass. 
You could have questioned Op’s sexual orientation in a more decent way. You also called him a pansy and immature…when he has done absolutely nothing to provoke you. Your own manner of response does not reflect maturity…much less any humor to warrant the perplexing couple nods of approval that you’ve received for your brash bravado. 
Most guys these days are not getting married at 22 and it’s a good thing if he’s questioning his readiness for such a huge life-changing responsibility and for reasons besides sex. There are guys and girls who are naturally more introverted… or …perhaps don’t feel confident about their looks or some other personal aspect…or placed emphasis on different priorities (education) …and so they lack experience in interacting with opposite gender. Not so hard to fathom this possibility.
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so you are saying that if I meet a girl, lets say you, randomly and i am being myself (random nerdy jokes) and all shaky and all over the place, you will definitely say yes if i ask for a cup of coffee ?
lets talk in real world, no girl will say yes to a guy like that if met randomly. Believe me, if that was the case then all nerds would have had a girl friend by now. There is a reason girls say O i love confidence… forget about confidence, the girl wouldn’t even talk to a guy who is throwing random jokes (believe me, telling a guy be yourself means opening box of lame jokes which only he understands, or his friends) …
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The problem is with the father then … Alex’s father appointed his son as the king whereas OP’s father wants him to get married. Perhaps, thats how all brown dads are?
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Did you even read what i wrote? Or just went off the bat on the first sentence? 
I DID tell him to make sure he has a free flowing conversation and smile and be relaxed. That’s what it is all about. Hey, if he makes nerdy jokes, good for him because a lot of us girls do to. I can’t even begin to list out the number of silly jokes i have. It makes me crack up and hss cracked up countless people at gatherings too, you’ve just got to not seem creepy lol. Sure, it’s about content but also about execution. He shouldn’t be “shaky” we already established that confidence is key.
I dunno what kind of stuck up girls you talk to, but i always laugh at nerdy jokes because i have a SENSE OF HUMOR. It doesn’t really mean i’m interested in the guy, because obviously, lets get it straight, it’s not all about jokes but also about personality, looks respect etc. I suggest that next time you use your nerdy jokes, improve your execution style and try and talk to a girl who doesn’t think that every guy talking to her is asking her out… read: relaxed human beings.
As for me, sure i’d laugh and enjoy the conversation (granted the guy just didn’t turn around in a full restaurant and start cracking jokes out of the blue, then i’d think he’s a weirdo. To have a normal conversation, you have to build to it and relax the people around you) but i wouldn’t agree to the cup of coffee only because i don’t date, not my thing. All stated above obviously applies to when you actually know the girl and are either out on a date or say meeting her for the rishta process. This does not apply to people you meet on the street. lol
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U are 22 and a guy, def time isnt running out. Relax