so all of you working and stay at home mommies and daddies with babies, infants, and toddlers, how much time do you give to yourself? What do you do? I am not talking about couple times but the individual time, be it a trip to the mall, reading a book, giving youyrself a facial.. or whatever floats your boat!
How do you do it? how often do you do it? how does your partner cooperate? Share 
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Every night after putting baby AND husband to bed 
I cuddle up with a book and read until at least midnight ā¦ sometimes 1am.
I need this time to myself and husband usually understands .. sometimes he wants me to just go to sleep .. but I donāt know how to explain it better than that I NEED to read every night .. itās my way of relaxing after a day of cooking, cleaning, changing diapers and handling a wild little toddler.
I would love to go to the spa etc .. unfortunately thatās not really an option during the weekdays and weekends are always busy .. so yeah 
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Working mother with 2 kids (under 4)
I find it very tough, although I have been out for my electrolysis and laser sessions but I find those like doctorās appointments so I dont categorize them as āme timeā, my husband does though.
I am hoping as the kids grow up a little (especially the little one) it will get easier for me to leave both kids at home and go out by myself.
We keep on deciding that we both will get some āme timeā every weekend where one parent keep both kids at home and the other one goes out but so far it has not been consistent.
Another reason is that we want to do some activity with the kids together like go out as a family so most of the weekends we are doing that and than with other household chores, grocery shopping and cooking, not much time is left.
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Ditto on wendy.
After I put the kids to bed, and if the husband is working late I watch my trash TV or read a book. It unwinds me more then going directly to bed with the kids.
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Same here! After 9 pm, is when I unwind with Bravo TV or a good book!
Once your kids are out of the toddler/Pre school years, it gets easier to carve out āmeā time outside of the house. My boys are now 7 & 9, and I find that they like to hand around with their papa more now than me 
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so no one has to do dishes, and clean up after putting kids to bed? I get home around 5:00, hubby and I make quick dinner, eat and then I just spend time with our 13 months old including but not limited to reading books to him, coloring, playing with his toys etc and then I put him to bed between7-8 and only then i get to do the dishes, tidy up the house, get the laundry loads ready before I crash around 10:00. I try to read in bed but it only lasts for 10-15 mins before I am off to sleep!
My husband helps a lot like last night he did the dishes because I wanted to do the shred and I could only squeeze in one thing 
But I still dont get time to do my waxing, threading etc.. weekends are crazy busy since we spend every minute of it with our son. so yes when do you do the rest if your me time is after putting kids to bed?
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You can do your threading/waxing/facial etc over the weekends when the kid naps.
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I donāt work so I usually do the cooking when my daughter naps.
For the dishes, I just rinse and put them in the dishwasher after every meal .. takes 5 mins max and run it before going to bed.
I do laundry twice a week. My daughter loves to help me
It gets a lot easier when theyāre 2-3 .. they can keep themselves busy and donāt need you around all the time.
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chipsyā¦ I wish I could.. his naps are getting shorter and shorter and to use most of it I am usually doing a house project or something during those naps.. lately I have been unpacking boxes in our basement and I get to them during his naps on the weekend. I do need to make an effort consifering it doesnt take long!
Wendy.. makes sense.. We got rid of the dishwasher since we never used it and I love doing dishes so I dont mind.. it just gets time consuming though
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while the kid naps, usually an hour to two- i try to make lunch, eat lunch and prep his lunch for when he wakes up. i also load the dishwasher and clean up while he naps.
he goes to bed around 7 and by that point iām usually pretty tired so i crash on the couch, have dinner, watch tv and catch up with the hubby. that lasts for about an hour before i get started on work but only after iāve had my cuppa tea (i know, such an aunty i am with my after-dinner chai). thankfully what i do, i can do at any point of the day without having angry clients wondering where iāve been all morning. bedtime for me happens anywhere from 10 to 1 depending on how much work iāve got- but i consider that me time, all of it!
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what?? you got RID of your dishwasher?? first time iāve ever heard of that happening! how do you not use the dishwasher??
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I do all the clean up while they are up.
After dinner I give the boys free play time while I clean up.
Then we head on upstairs wash up get into our PJās (all of us) and settle in for 30 minutes of either reading or watching an educational show and off to bed.
So our quality time is on the dinner table and then right when weāre settling in for bed.
I get my waxing and eyebrows done at lunch time.
I donāt really take a lunch to eat - always to run errands.
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Iām sure itās harder to find time for yourself when youāre working. Why donāt you take out two hours every other weekend and go out while your husband stays home with your son or have your husband take your son out while you stay home?
I think weekdays are out of the question for you. Most working moms I know say they donāt even know where the day goes by and before they know it, itās time for bed!
P.s: why would you get rid of your dishwasher?? I often think if it werenāt for the dishwasher, Iād be standing in the kitchen all day!
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I go to parlour after every 15 days and daily 2 hrs in the evening are totally mine go for a long walk all alone while huby do baby sitting, after putting baby n huby sleep I usually watch tv or internet or read something. go out with friends regularly but baby always accompany me. but the best thing is whenever I want to do something or i need some time huby is always ready for babysitting allhumdullah 
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sgcā¦ LOL we have had the dishwasher for years but we never used it except for storage (such desis) and I have to admit I love doing dishes and playing with bubbles so I really dont mind it..I hate cooking but you can have me do dishes all day long we got rid of it to move one of our kitchen cabinet there as we had to put in the microwave at that placeā¦ hubby left the connections there in case I ever want to HAVE a dishwasher but for now I dont need it! But then I only keep 4 plates, 2 cups 2 glasses and a few utensils for 2 of us and couple of plastic dishes and spoons for the baby. We usually dont have a sink full of dishes either because we wash things as we go along while cooking.. it probably doesnt make sense to many people but less is more is my philosohpy these days and I dont mind doing dishes so no dishwasher is perfect for us!
devilishā¦ you beat everyone 2 hours everyday to yourselfā¦I am going to become a stay at home now
Alhamdulillah for great husbands.. mine helps a lot and sometimes he works from home meaning he keeps the baby during the day and then has to stay up in the wee hours of night to finish the work.. I have no idea how he does that so all I do is just admire and move on without complaining about me time.. he doesnt get any eitehr! We enjoy together as a family but I dont think we have ever done just for ourselves since we got married!
Sgc, if he goes to.bed at 7 what time does he get up ? Are you up before him ?
I wish I had some me time, I just started to put Jr to bed earlier but I end up doing housework, or the younger one decides he is not gonna sleep while hubby watches a movie. I do have some long term guests so maybe just maybe after they leave I might get some me time.
And Gtg Iām a stay at.home mom.
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GTG I think wht is working is for me is tht allhumdullah my baby co operates with me like I donāt have to wait for her nap to do any household work while she is up playing watching tv I finish my household work, honestly when she naps I either take rest with her do cupboard n drawer arrangement n huby donāt have to do any extra effort just keeping an eye on her n doing his work side by side.
like automne said she is also stay at home mum soi think number 2 will come things will be different.
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iām a stay at home with one baby and I dont get me timeā¦
i do house chores when heās awake and sometimes when he takes nap i use GS and pinterestā¦thats it!
I dont remember when i went to parlour last time and i go to sleep the moment my baby sleeps at nightā¦
my husband stays with baby while i cook khana and he says this is your me time:naraz: