So i feel that brides look good with all three (Tikka , Jhummer, Nath), yet since im very petite, couple of family members feel it wont look good on me, yet its a once in a life time thing where you get to wear it… and i really want to have that differnt look… what you guys think??
I understand the fact if i have it on and if it doesnt look good, they have the right to say it doesnt look good…yet without having it on me or looking at it they shouldnt just say no…also jhummer nath and tikka all have sizes according to your face…
Nevertheless hubby feels the same way, he says it will look over done, which some brides endup looking like…but i just feel they didnt even see me and saying no…
ahhhhhg i know its not a big deal yet i feel it is:teary1:… what do i doo??
Re: Tikka , Jhummer, Nath for Bridals for 2012 bridals (HELP)
If the bridal has a heavy jora, and a heavy set…I think adding tikka AND jhummer AND nath is too much…regardless of whether or not she’s petite. Most guys I know (including my own hubby) hates so much stuff on women (even on the wedding day). Whether or not a bride looks “good” with all 3 on is a matter of personal opinion.
You mentioned how they’re making comments without actually seeing you wear it all. On the flip side, you’re also wanting to wear it without ever seeing yourself in them. Have you actually put on an entire bridal set with a dupatta on your head to see how you look? You never know…once you see it all…you yourself may not like what you see.
LOL…although I wore a tikka for my reception, for my civil ceremony I didn’t even wear tikka (or jhummer or nath). My own mother kept asking me MANY times how I was going to be a bride without a tikka. And I kept reminding her that legally and in Islam, there is no requirement that I need to wear a tikka to get married. Now that the wedding is over, I don’t feel that I was “less” of a bride or am “less” of a wife just b/c I didn’t wear the tikka, jhummer, nath and many other material things that people think is somehow needed for a wedding. Heck I didn’t even wore the dupatta on my head at all and still somehow managed to get married!
Since you have the freedom to decide whether or not to wear all 3 (ie. your mother or MIL isn’t making that decision for you)…do what makes YOU happy.
Re: Tikka , Jhummer, Nath for Bridals for 2012 bridals (HELP)
your such a doll, you right i need to put in on and see if i myself even if like it or not, yet family had already said it wont look good, and yes it all also depends on the jora and heavy set, you made me realize that i should be so fuzzy about lil things, after all if i like it ill wear it…
wow everyone is so big bout the duppata on the head!! go girl for making it happen your way, yet you just have to face all those werid “comments”
Re: Tikka , Jhummer, Nath for Bridals for 2012 bridals (HELP)
Funny thing is that I wanted the dupatta on my head! My hubby (then fiance) is the one who talked me out of it b/c he is not a fan of dupattas on head. And yes, my mother gave me a lot of grief for not wearing red during my reception (even though I wore it for my civil ceremony), and not wearing tikka for my civil ceremony (even though I wore it for my reception)! Yet looking back…I have absolutely not regrets for the decisions I made. I loved the way I looked on my wedding day and so did my hubby.
Go try in some bridal jewelry sets and see if YOU like the way you look with everything on first.
Honestly, you will realize AFTER the wedding that spending so much energy worrying about the little things is not worth it. Since you are free to choose what you will wear…focus on what YOU want. Of course, I would also take your fiance’s opinions into account since after all…I’m sure you want him to like the way you look on that day. As for everyone else…ignore their opinions. People will complain about your outfit, jewelry, makeup etc. no matter what you do…since everyone has their own taste. As long as you and your hubby are happy with how you look as bride…that’s all that matters.
And I kept reminding her that legally and in Islam, there is no requirement that I need to wear a tikka to get married. Now that the wedding is over, I don’t feel that I was “less” of a bride or am “less” of a wife just b/c I didn’t wear the tikka, jhummer, nath and many other material things that people think is somehow needed for a wedding. Heck I didn’t even wore the dupatta on my head at all and still somehow managed to get married!
