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When I go to the gym I see many women working out in their 80s. One such woman I know can run circles around many in 30s and 40s. Quality of life is good here. I think stress is a huge killer so if husbands and wives cause stress then they both die.
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I wish there could be a collective discussion about this that isn’t idiotic.
Every time violence against women with a desi perpetrator happens we have whites/white apologists acting like it is because of a savage culture (not because they care about desi women, but more to do with their prejudice against desis) and then you have nationalist bars of soap that just want to clean up any negative story that comes out from our people and point fingers at other groups of people. Yeah, almost every culture has a crap ton of misogyny, but what are your people doing about your culture’s misogyny? What are we doing? Instead of pointing fingers, you can at the very least take a good hard look at what the problem is and try to fix it, even on the most micro of level.
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So here is a case study, we dont have MILs and SILs beating the wife here. In case of desis the women may have to deal with multiple abusers, they are culturally raised to put up with abuse, many times they dont know their rights.
CASE STUDY: “TEJINDER”
Tejinder was eight months pregnant when she immigrated under the Family Class in December 2007 to join her husband and his family in Canada. Her travel in the late stage of pregnancy had caused her a lot of physical discomfort, but her in-laws did not take her to the doctor as she was not eligible for free health insurance (OHIP Coverage). Within a week her problems became “more serious” and she was rushed to emergency by a friend. The doctors had to perform an emergency Caesarian section operation on her, and the baby was born prematurely. Her husband, his family and her family came to know of the birth only after the delivery. Tejinder’s hospital bill amounted to $13,000, and was a trigger for the ongoing abuse she faced at the hands of her in-laws. Her in-laws would blame her for the high medical expenses they had to incur and would keep her locked in a room. She was not fed until her husband returned from his work. She did not go for any post-natal checkups due to the costs that would be involved, and because she was dependent on her in-laws for transportation.
Tejinder conceived her second child when her son was four months old. During her pregnancy she had to cook for her husband’s family of 7 persons each day while taking care of her infant. Her brother in law and his wife had no children despite being married 12 years and Tejinder’s parents-in-law wished Tejinder to hand over her son to the brother-in law and his wife to raise as their own. When Tejinder delivered a baby girl neither her husband nor her in-laws came to visit her at the hospital. She says they did not want her to return home. She took a taxi home, paying for it from the $20 odd dollars she had accumulated from the cash gifts her child had received. Her situation at home deteriorated after the birth of her daughter. Her husband moved between many precarious factory jobs and drank heavily, borrowing money from his mother. Tejinder’s mother-in-law and sister-in-law used to “beat her sometimes.” Someone in her ethnic network suggested that Tejinder apply for subsidized housing to YMCA. When Tejinder applied at YMCA she told them about the constant fighting in the house and about the physical and mental torture she had to endure. At the time she did not mention her husband’s abusive behaviour as she was scared “I thought if I make a complaint against my husband, he will leave me, then where will I go with my kids?” She was soon allotted a townhome and the family’s primary source of income was the husband’s erratic earnings and the “$260 to $270 for each” child that Tejinder received from the government as child tax benefits.
While Tejinder was in the hospital, the doctors had alerted child welfare to her case as Tejinder had told him that she would be unable to afford milk powder for her newborn. The child welfare worker started meeting with Tejinder once or twice a month. However, Tejinder had been warned by her family not to disclose any of the harassment to her. On one such visit by the social worker to her new home, Tejinder’s husband returned home drunk and started fighting with the social worker. When Tejinder tried to reason with her husband, he slapped her in front of the social worker two times. The social worker immediately called the police and the husband was removed from the home. At the social worker’s suggestion, Tejinder agreed to go move to a shelter with her children. At the shelter, Tejinder had to come to terms with the fact that she had to care for her children in a place she knew little about due to the forced isolation she had been subjected to by her husband and his family. Though she says the staff at the shelter were “very good” and that she got to eat Indian food at the shelter, Tejinder had a tough time because of the racism she experienced.
At the shelter Tejinder had to rely on an interpreter called from the nearby YMCA to communicate with her shelter worker. She had to live at the shelter for six months to be allotted the three bedroom house that the social worker told her was needed as both her children were of different sexes. “They were saying if I had two sons then I can live in twobedroom house but as I have one daughter and one son I have to take three BHK [bedroom hall kitchen house]”. After she left the shelter, her husband tried to take away her children and the police had to be called to intervene.
Tejinder had been living on her own with her children for two years at the time of the interview. She had received sole custody of her children from the court a month ago. In the past two years, Tejinder’s sources of support and help had been Canadian state institutions. Ontario Works along with the Child Tax Benefit paid for her living expenses. She lived frugally, never eating outside the house and never buying new clothes for herself or her children. The police told Tejinder to call them if her husband’s family were to approach her again.
The child welfare worker who visited Tejinder often suggested that Tejinder enroll her children in extra-curricular activities, taking advantage of the subsidies available for low income persons. Tejinder, who lived on the very limited income provided by Ontario works, found this suggestion impossible to follow: “It’s not possible for me. At the end of the month in my account I have only $10. It’s very hard for me to run the house in this limited income.” Tejinder continued to care for her children while fighting depression that had its beginnings in her in-laws home (joint family with her in-laws) and that escalated when she lived in the shelter. Tejinder lived from day to day, dreading the time when the Ontario Works support would be withdrawn and she is forced to start working full time.
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Criticizing Pakistan in particular and Muslims in general comes with brownie points.
Scissors Attack Did Not Happen…
Although the hate crimes against muslims have increased a lot and are totally condemnable but creating hoaxes about hate attacks does not help the community and there have been a lot of false claims and I think the community should take action against this kind of stuff. In this case she was a child but in many cases adults made false claims.
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Merging with the other thread by OP.
One desi-bashing thread at a time or else this hatred can be taken somewhere else
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Lol bob you try so hard to be white even though you look brown af, it’s like you’re tryna overcompensate.
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Anyways RIP to the women, their killers should be given the death penalty but canada is full of cucks like bob so they’ll just give them a warm jail cell.
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its called “trying to be more Christian than the pop” 
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I could prolly cuck your lot, give it a try lil weak thing..
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I actually get to train and mentor all kinds people, so not white but an accomplished human being.
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Very sad “Tejinder” case Indeed Bobby1 but we see way more horrible lack of human empathy being demonstrated by some white folks in Calif toward their children:
Parents arrested after 12 children, ages 2-29, found shackled in California home | Fox News
A Southern California couple is in custody on suspicion of torture and child endangerment after 12 of their children allegedly were found captive in the couple’s home, with some of them shackled to beds.
David Turpin, 57, and Louise Turpin, 49, were each being held on $9 million bail, the Riverside County Sheriff's Office said in a statement Monday afternoon.
Authorities said the investigation began after a 17-year-old girl "escaped" from the home in Perris and called 911 early Sunday to report that her 12 brothers and sisters were being held by their parents.
The sheriff's office said investigators initially believed the "slightly emaciated" girl was just 10 years old when they first saw her.
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This is one example of what I mentioned in my other post in this thread. Yes, we know white people can be just as savage and like to act like they aren’t compared to brown and black people. However,* this doesn’t erase the instances of abuse/other crimes that are committed by brown people. *I know Bobby is veering on white-apologist/bootlicker but it doesn’t really make what he is trying to claim wrong. The abuse that gets tolerated in our community is due to our culture’s misogyny, so it is up to us to fix it. I don’t care what goray say/think, because clearly they have their own misogyny in their culture to deal with. However, trying to dodge critiques here is not necessary. We are a board filled with predominantly desi people, what is the problem in us addressing the realities of our community here?