Every day when i go to school i have to wait for the bus for about 5-10 mins. When the bus does arrive getting on the bus is the most painful part of my day (usually). There are 3 little boys (11 years old i think) sitting in the front. Two of them are asians and 1 is black. Just looking at them makes me angry, sad and frustrated. I feel like beating them up or shouting at them.
I always try to go as far back in the bus as possible away from their conversations. I feel angry at them… no actually sorry for what is happeing to them. On some occasions when the back seats are full i have to sit close to them and no matter how hard i try i am forced into eavesdropping on their conversation. They are 10-11 years old for god sake!!!
They usually are exchanging website addresses for heavy “manga” and “hentai” sites. Telling each other how they can bypass AVS (Age Verification Services) to watch that “blow job” movie. Or how to get to that hidden secret level in that illegal adult game. Its really heart breaking for me. U have no idea how i feel. The first time i realised all of this i sat there in the school feeling pain and rage… i sat passivly through out my classes. i felt like beating up people or punch my self. I have to do somthing… but what can i do???
. Its not that i am their brother or a relative… i feel taht they are my brothers and i have an obligation to stop what is not right… but again how and why?
Even more depressing is that in our area * Play boy Tv * is being aired as a experimental channel and they are watching that too. I know playboy is a million times innocent and harmless to what they are being exposed to through internet(hardcoreporn, manga comix, movies, adult PC games e.t.c) . They are still kids by the way they speak and the things they talk about e.g:
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boy 1: hey what were u doing in toilet (talking to boy 3)?
boy 2: i know he was was having sex!!!.
boy 3: no!!!.. thats not right.. its a male toilet anyway
the other 2 boys: hahahahahahaha… he is gay… hahahhahaah
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Am i being silly?. Cant i stop this? . Is there anything i can do?. I cant leave them… i have to do somthing… once, while they were talking i tried to stare at them and try to intimidate them … yet they completely ignored me.
They are loosing their innocence… what can i do… i am totally helpless. i talked to my friend about it he said “leave them … why should u care?” … but i cant help it. They are every where in school… What should i do?
I wonder what sort of homes these kids have. What sort of adult examples they have. These stories make me really sad because I wonder just what sort of adults these kids will make.
If I knew them I would try and find a chance to talk about this. Only if I knew them otherwise and had an easy relationship with them.
How to talk? making them feel guilty is wrong, it won't work. I think a simple discussion about human beings, dignity, relationships, how they want other people to see and respect them. What can you say? try and be honest. Women are also people, not sex objects. Sex is wonderful if you share it with the right person under the right circumstances. Pornography and sexual abuse may seem to be the answer to some people's needs for a little while but they will probably not solve anything and may well cause much unhappiness to others. They will not bring love which is part of what these kids are searching for.
These kids may just be misguided. But it may well be worse. They need caring involved adults. If you really care to do anything then why not get involved with some organisation that organises activities for young people? Set up something in your community? Your imagination is the limit!
I think they’ll grow out of it.. adoloscence comes early in most western societies.. some say that at times nutiritionally enhanced foods plays a part too.
As long as they are not lagging behind in their classwork and are not violence prone, they’ll eventually satisfy that desire to know what’s taboo and kept from them because it would no longer remain a mystery.
You could introduce them to some sports and while u’re at it.. do some yourself
"manga" isn't bad dude. There's nothing wrong there. It's the hentai that's bad. Anyway, the 11year old brother of my crush has a nasty website that he runs by himself. It's not like porn rots yer brain or anything. He's already in Algebra and they are thinking of skipping him up a few grades. Kids have to learn about sex sometimes, if parents don't tell them that is.
doesn't your nose bleed on that high horse? Porn is bad, but bullying the kids, or beating them up is ok? And don't tell me you've never been hit the porn ever before.
WHAT!!!.. they are 11 years old here and starting like this. Who knows what they will “grow into” at this rate!!!
** Stephie **
OHHHHhh… believe me ADULT MANGA is bad… it rots ur brain even more than conventinal porn… its the nastiest of all the things (including hentai)… and i am talking about it from experience!!! .
the problem with it is that its all fantasy, all imaginary (animated) , which makes ur mind preverted and long for more prevertness. If kids have to learn about sex they should read a proper book or somthing not log on to the computer and search for manga/hentai to look at how tenticles, alien beings, men e.t.c. penetrate women. Its disgusting and horrible
i have done worse things when i was 15-16 and i am sorry for that i wish i could get that year back that i wasted and i dont * bully * kids it was just a stupid thought heck i dont even fight unless provoked by somthing mean and by someone atleast my size .
GD: I believe its sad...but you relationship (or the lack of it) with these kids really makes it hard for you to do anything worthwhile about it. Hena?
if you really want to help those people, try diverting their attention to something positive and prductive, like trying attract them to sports, mind games, or call em upto your place and have meeting, in soft words trying tell them its not good, and morally its not right..
but for that you will have to be friendly with them…
and I really appreciate your thinking …atleast you can diffrentiate whats wrong, and whats right..
thanks… the problem is i cant actually approach them. Firstly because i have no idea where they live, i dont know them, they are kids and they’ll just feel annoyed if i tried talking to them… they’ll be even more attracted to “bad things” since it would represent somthing “mysterious” and “unexplored” . Talking to them might actually encourage them
Gamma, I am 35 years and I never knew what is Manga and Hentai or whatever, but thanks for exposing it to other people and making them curious, I am sure there are lot of others like me who doesn't know anything about it, If u really think those kids are doing something wrong, why not speak to them. And I am surprise being a guy why they always comming near you????? I am just wondering, from the first sentences I read, I thought u was a girl, but surely I am confused why you cannot solve this problem yourself or asking your friends in local, rather you felt this as a great requirement for asking on the Internet????
I maybe wrong but from my experience I don't see the reason you need to ask this on gupshup......
I tell you why I made bid deal about it:
When you tell other about those kids (if that is really happening), other people may find it encouraging that, its ok to do if 11 years old is doing, so what if I did it, how to hack sites, how to go into adult material etc.
From Islamic point of view its better not to market bad things. I am sure you understand what I mean and don't take it to heart. Thanks for reading