The Imaam I want to perform my Nikaah has said he will only perform it together on stage (non-segregated).
This is not something I have ever seen before! In our family we follow the tradition of the groom having his Nikaah on stage alone and then the bride makes her entrance.
Maybe this idea of having the Nikaah together is something which is becoming increasingly popular. Has anyone seen such weddings?? Is it a bit weird? Maybe I just feel that way because it’s not something I’m familiar with. What are people’s thoughts please…
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my niece had her nikaah separately. yes, you are right. the trend is catching up to have nikaah done together on the stage.
i'm surprised to learn that the Imaam wants to do it together on the stage...this is unusual...most imaams are conservative and would prefer to do the nikaah separately. is this Imaam saaHab a modern one? :)
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I've never seen a nikkah seperate in my family...we have them all on the stage, together, with the bride and groom seated side by side. In fact, most wedding in our community are done that way, and not just recently, it's been like that at pretty much every wedding I've ever been to
I have never attended a together scenario, always a separated one. I am surprised that imaam is insisting on that, as separate nikah is purely a religious reason so one would expect that he would insist for the separate scenario.
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OP ... are you quite strictly observing Islamic segregation rules in your daily life?
if so then perhaps another imam is in order?
if not then why be segregated suddenly at wedding time ... if you otherwise have interacted in person with your husband to be or other males?
i sat next to my husband for the nikaah ceremony. it wasnt wierd at all.
another option is to have the nikkah on henna day ... then you can still do your entrance bit.
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Never seen a nikah together until recently. The nikah I attended took place on mehndi day. The bride was on stage with her mom and sisters. Groom was sitting on the men side. But altogether it was a small party size room so really they might as well have sat together.
In my family, the nikah is done separately and bride makes her entrance later.
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I prefer it together, tho I've seen it done both ways. The bride can still make a big entrance. They're just both seated on stage at the time of the nikkah.
The nikkah is the most important part of the wedding. Why shouldn't the guests be able to witness the bride's part?
I prefer it together, tho I've seen it done both ways. The bride can still make a big entrance. They're just both seated on stage at the time of the nikkah.
The nikkah is the most important part of the wedding. Why shouldn't the guests be able to witness the bride's part?
Exactly! And yes, the bride still makes a grand entrance..she's escorted to the stage by her parents and/or brother & siblings after the arrival of the baraat...i
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In my family the groom is at the masjid and the bride is home and then after the nikkah they have the mehndi ceremony. Ummm but I've attended other weddings and in some if them it was together on stage.
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Right now I’m only thinking about that ^ Imam. Make sure he’s the legit one . Anyways never seen such wedding before, doesn’t matter the families are religious or not.
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Khan4life, loads of imams do it..
Am sure he's legit..
I've heard some say they prefer to have the bride and groom together so it's clear to everyone she has given her consent and it's a bit hypocritical to be in the same environment as the opposite gender in your everyday life but suddenly need to be separate from the person you're marrying for your nikah..
Unless the people involved are v.conservative and living segregated from the opposite gender in their normal life I don't see much point in insisting on it either..
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Khan4life, loads of imams do it..
Am sure he's legit..
I've heard some say they prefer to have the bride and groom together so it's clear to everyone she has given her consent and *it's a bit hypocritical to be in the same environment as the opposite gender in your everyday life but suddenly need to be separate from the person you're marrying for your nikah.. *
Unless the people involved are v.conservative and living segregated from the opposite gender in their normal life I don't see much point in insisting on it either..
Deeba, i largely agree with your statement but nikaah is a religious ceremony so religious protocols should be observed...it's like when you go to Masjid, you wear scarf and proper clothes...right?
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i think it's really strange that the imam refuses to perform the nikkah seperately.
having the nikkah seperately does not really give the impression that it is being done without the girls consent. the imam would need to explain that the bride's consent was given earlier to her wali and now her wali is acting on her behalf.. i have seen imams explain this at several ceremonies and it was completely understood by the non-muslims in attendance.. they even liked the idea since it puts less pressure on the bride to say yes in front of hundreds of people. personally, i like the ceremony better this way as I think it is more symbolic to have the wali, in most cases, the girls father, giving his daughter away.
on the other hand, one benefit i see of having the nikkah together on the stage is that everyone can come up to the stage right after and congratulate you as opposed to only having the men come up congratulate the groom.
non-segregated nikkahs are very common now.. just do whatever makes you and your family happy!
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^I don't think it necessarily gives that impression but some imams like to see the girl is happy and ok with it and prefer her to be there..
I've seen in many other Muslim cultures the girl gives her answer herself rather than thru her wali and is sat by her groom so I think again this might be a cultural thing specific to more conservative societies..
Apart from Pakistanis I know many Afghans and Saudis do it that way but a lot of other Arabs and Turks don't..
Each to their own.. In terms of Islam it's not a problem if the bride is there with him..
Make sure he’s the legit one 
. Anyways never seen such wedding before, doesn’t matter the families are religious or not.