Thoughts on “first and only love”

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So, I have been thinking.. For those people who have only met and been with one person whom they call their “perfect love” “one true love” and so on .. and end up together married and whatnot.. Do you think they might have a misconception on the subject?

Let me elaborate.. for example, let’s say you have only dated one guy-ever, and fell in love yada yada the whole nine yards.. can you realllllly say he is the one? (same goes vice versa for men) … I’m questioning it because, if you don’t know what it’s like to be mistreated by a man (or woman), or be in a mediocre “eh, it’s good” kind of relationship, how do you know this person you have picked is your soulmate? you have nothing to compare it to, besides outside influences such as tv, family, friends etc etc.

I’m not saying go around with hundreds of people testing out your compatibility etc and whatnot, nor do you HAVE to be hurt in order to appreciate the good (although it helps)… and I also firmly believe in fixing your relationship rather than breaking it off in a heartbeat and going out in search of another… and if you have found something that makes you super happy, stick to it !!!

And by no means am I hating, and I am very happy for those who have found love, as I am a big fan of people who are able to attain it. I think it’s a beautiful feeling..

it’s just, if you have only been in one relationship, how would you know?

Discuss.

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Re: Thoughts on “first and only love”

We were never really romantic and never thought too deeply about love and companionship when we met. We just loved to be together. I am pretty sure if I never met him I would be single now. I don't get attached to people and when I do, it's hard to get rid of me. That's basically why we have been glued together ever since. We have been through some hellish times together and are inseparable now. We have experienced life together and never let it tear us apart. It came close many times but we never could really break up. It's a weird feeling when we think back to all these years we have been together and put up with each other. Our story seems like something out of a Bollywood movie to most people but it's not like we don't have our ups and downs. Just happy on most days that we found each other. Some days we want to kill each other. That's normal..

If we compared ourselves to other people, I am sure we would have parted ways long time ago. There are many times we both wonder what would happen if we didn't meet or broke up and dated other people. Who would we be today and what our lives would be like? We have those discussions sometimes and we talk about different scenarios and we both agree we just can't see ourselves with anyone else.