I am not too knowing about the Pakistani village boy mentality, as I didnt grow up there, but in the west it is quite normal to tell your girlfriends/boyfriends (buddies) that you “love them”, you know the casual “Love ya” type things - without actually meaning that you are in “LOVE” with that person romantically. If a Pakistani boy who is close friends with you tells you that he “loves you”, could that also mean the same thing as it does in the west? Or doesnt that notion exist there at all, as it does here? Does it mean that he is “in” love with me?
you nvr really know what one's intentions or true feelings are when they tell you that they love you.....
but in my opinion whenever i hear about a desi guy (one from back home) telling a girl he loves her soon after meeting her......i feel that he is just in love with the idea of being in love but not really "in love". when a guy in the west says it too soon....he says it just to "get her" ....hope u understand what im saying.
east or west,
decent couples are always truthful to each other.
and have regard for each other's feelings and whole person.
keeping some secrets to say only to the beloved at theright time, must never be delayed, esp those that are supposed to come from the male - that harms the relationship terribly.
when it is your turn , say it quietly only to him - i pray that you get to say it to him, face to face so that he can see your purity and comittment focused care for him.
best,
dushwari
dearest bunnyhoney.
if a pakistani guy from a village...tells u that je 'loves you' then he does mean that he is 'in' love with you. that is what he is trying to tell you, whther he is being honest is a different story.
people in pakistani villages atleast havent yet established the 'casual love ya' type relationships. actually they dont really have the concept of a guy and girl being 'friends'. its unthinkable. or thats atleast the case in my gaon, which i visited only a few months ago. so, yeah. he's telling you k ussay pyar ho gaya hay.
you nvr really know what one's intentions or true feelings are when they tell you that they love you.....
but in my opinion whenever i hear about a desi guy (one from back home) telling a girl he loves her soon after meeting her......i feel that he is just in love with the idea of being in love but not really "in love". when a guy in the west says it too soon....he says it just to "get her" ....hope u understand what im saying.
Yeah I think you are right. He was born and brought up in the village and has been living in Pindi for the last three years or so and going to college there. Yes in our village, it is also unthinkable to b "friends" with a girl...and this is a village were all girls do purda - we are Pathans. I hope it was the real I love you...
dearest bunnyhoney.
if a pakistani guy from a village...tells u that je 'loves you' then he does mean that he is 'in' love with you. that is what he is trying to tell you, whther he is being honest is a different story.
people in pakistani villages atleast havent yet established the 'casual love ya' type relationships. actually they dont really have the concept of a guy and girl being 'friends'. its unthinkable. or thats atleast the case in my gaon, which i visited only a few months ago. so, yeah. he's telling you k ussay pyar ho gaya hay.
did his toes twitch when he said it? how about his ears, esp the left one?.... just messing, but if your hot looking then take it in only the one way, he wants to get to know your dad better, you know, show him he's a respectable young man & all the rest........:D
you are so lucky , you were told that you are loved.
i was proposed by him, and never ever told that i was loved by him.
i wonder why.
did he lack the courage since he is so under the spell of his family or is he afraid of his true emotions to come about.
bunnyhoney- oh i bet u can find many ways 2 know if he really luvs u....dont just assume he does or does not...do something creative as in tell him how some1 propsed 2 u and c what he says....or anything like that...OR if u r a very brave girl than just ask him what he meant that day.....:D
