Re: Those who married within your caste..
^ I think they're talking about Shaikh/Jatt/Rajput (i think that's one?)/Arain/Pathan/Sayed. Those are all the ones I've heard of and honestly, I didn't even know of them until a couple of years ago. From what I've observed, Sayeds and Rajputs are more strict about marrying into the same caste, don't know why...?
I think families follow this caste system so that the children marry someone of a similar background- really, I think it's because of insecurities. So that one family doesn't feel lower than the other. if the guy or girl is a good Muslim, that should matter more. And if the so-called caste matches, then treat it only as a coincidence- don't make it a priority.
I have a question though, wasn't this caste system originally an ethnic group or heritage type of thing- like where the ancestors came from and what they used to do, then eventually it was treated like a caste system??
My mum expects me to marry within my caste, and she's very firm on that. I, however, wouldn't force it upon my child...for my mothers sake I would make it known to my kid, look try finding someone in your own caste, but if they are really happy with someone else and I think they would make a good partner for my child then that's what matters.
I don't understand what's the point of being so rude about how some people go about marriage. If you want your child to marry within the caste then so be it, why do you have a problem with that? Are you the one being told to marry within your caste? Is it any of your concern what some people believe? Get a grip on yourself...
Why would it be rude to question something I believe is inherently wrong just because it doesn't affect me? Does that mean white ppl should have kept their mouths shut about apartheid as well.. If I think people are being prejudiced of course I've got the right to say something.. The sooner this system dies out the better imo. I can sort of understand that some ppl feel they can't upset their parents even tho I don't agree with it myself, but when girls and guys in this generation say they want to uphold this rubbish because** they themselves believe in it** I think that's really messed up..
'It is Islam that has taught human beings that they are all brothers and sisters created from a single pair of a male and a female. Therefore, Islam, unlike Hinduism, neither recognizes nor condones the idea of a caste system. Islam is a war on caste systems, on aristocracies, and hereditary social groups of all kinds.'**
Source: What do today’s Muslims need and what does Islam have to offer?
An interesting read: http://www.happymuslimah.com/2009/03/islam-caste-system-and-marriage.html
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