Re: Those who married when they were 30+, what is your relationship like?
hello there! first off welcome to gupshup.
As a woman who married 30+, I will say once again … chronological age doesn’t have as much (or even anything) to do with a successful marriage as does mental maturity, a genuine regard/respect for your partner and ability to compromise/go with the flow/adaptation to changes in life that are inevitable with marriage and then parenthood.
since I may end up being the only woman on this form coming fwd to admit 
to a “late” marriage *(*oh i stand corrected … plenty of ballsy ladies on here!)**… let me take the opportunity to dispel some stereotypes/fears as i address the subtopics you have listed/are interested in.
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communication:
This is key to any marriage regardless of age. Though Ive come across some v well spoken younger individuals and some teenage -like awkward 30+ beings … i think its no secret. with age comes confidence … comfort in your own skin … firmness of thought and the ability to communicate with an audience (including your spouse) without fear.
for myself … I “talked” with my husband for 3 yrs before i married him. we had met online … not on a matchmaking site … and became friends … which grew into more over time. we didn’t date … unless you are one of those ppl who quate any talking to a member of opposite gender dating. -
Couple dynamics
We chose each other. got families involved. physically met him twice after that (with knowledge and consent of family). There was some good old drama … his side: she is too old, probably set in her ways, brought up in west and has a career … she wont make a good wife as per the usual pakistani thinking. My side: how dare they say no … you are a catch! (have you ever met a family who doesnt think their son/daughter/bro/sis is a catch} we are insulted and we wont proceed even if they around now …
Him n I: remained polite (wasnt easy) n firm in our decision. Both sides came around (reluctantly) eventually. We married 4 yrs ago in pk.
Being in our 30s … we were both finished completely with our respective education, both employed and financially independent.
neither of us believes in division of labor or finances … so we have joint everything and we make all financial decisions together. We both pitch in for whatever needs to be done at home … though I am the one who cooks/cleans most frequently (im better at it). we both work full time. he is a chill dude and im type A. he is punjabi … im not. he is more religious … im more spiritual. he likes rice … i like roti. we both love chai
he makes me laugh like no other and over the last 4 years ive come to rely on him more then i ever expected i would. -
Children:
we had both wanted to start a family right away and did so. we have a 3yo girl and a second baby due to arrive any day now.
both were conceived naturally (no medical intervention). Both pregnancies have been full term, healthy and without issues … such that I have been to able to continue work till the end. i returned to work full time after my first … and intend to do same after the second.
parenting … lol … no manual for this … its a learn on the job kind of deal … regardless of age of parents.
he is a good/hands on/involved father and that makes it possible for me to maintain/continue my career. me … i try to be a good wife
and that includes cooking/cleaning/laundry for him… etc…
overall … cant complain. we are blessed. life is good. alhumdulillah.