Well I’m not married but my oldest brother is married and lives with us. My bhabi gets treated in exactly the same way I get treated. If she’s going out somewhere she’ll ask if it okay incase mum had other plans, when her and my brother go out they still ask permission. Not that mum ever says no, it’s just politeness, mum is always left smiling purely because they asked.
She’ll always show my mom and brother what she’s bought, infact in most cases if its something expensive mum probably will have bought her it.
She’s taken over everything mum used to do, but Alham we do have a cleaner/cook so she doens’t really have to do much. But days they’re not around, we do it together and mum contributes towards cooking if we have guests over.
We don’t fight. We’re like sisters, we have the odd little disagreement over something stupid like siblings have but mashallah nothing serious.
I’ve always always been told by my mum to treat your MIL like your mother because she WILL love you like a daughter in return. My mum and bhabis relationship is SO good alhamdulilah even I get jealous sometimes! And I think in this day and age that’s fabulous. No jagra no headache.