Wife suspects husband of cheating on her.
She hires someone to seduce him to see if he will take the bait (OR have someone flirt with him online OR hire a private investigator). He ends up cheating on her..
Was it wrong of her to do that?
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Nope. He should be strong enough to resist temptation.
Like girls dont get asked out even when they're married? Its a matter of self control and the loyalty you owe to your spouse.
I dont care if she danced for him naked, he should be man enough to walk away.
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Wife suspects husband of cheating on her.
She hires someone to seduce him to see if he will take the bait (OR have someone flirt with him online OR hire a private investigator). He ends up cheating on her..
Was it wrong of her to do that?
Yes, now he should sue her.
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It was a movie…same thing…some serious mind twisting too…the seductress keeps making stories just to satisfy the inner insecurity of the wife…twisteed up weird **** this is…
Chloe
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its a bit twisted of her to do that in the first place.
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Lets see....how the thread plays out..
the guy was going about his life.....
his wife 'feared he may cheat'
so she gets him cheated.
the other cheater is also a woman knowing that she is trappinga man...thout would lead to him becoming a bad guy n embarassed infront of his Wife..
so.......all the 2 women are just emotional,naive,simple......who thought up the whole plan,executed it
...........the guy,who was gong about his life was trapped,made guilty, and was played with eimotionally by the 'seductress' so called.........and he is not the man enough, bad man,evil person,he should be punished,..............
..............................................................all the cursing turns from this man to general men........they all are cheat too.........they are unfaithful to wife.............and some people might find it interesting idea to apply to their marriages too..........to 'check/test' loyalti of their husbands.......
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I think the wife should feel really proud for seducing her husband for the second time.
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I was just about to ask if she watched “Chloe”!!!
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LOL! NO i didn't, but i'm sure it's come up in a few books/movies...
see if the guy hadn't cheated I would say it was twisted of her....but if he did cheat, well he's just as messed up isn't he? or is it worse that she "planned" all this?
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I think if she suspected him of cheating, she should have sat him down and talked to him about it. If he denied it and there were still some signs and symptoms, then she could have found other means to satisfy her suspicions, but putting him in a situation to commit repeated gunnahs, or perhaps the first gunnah wasn't too bright. Maybe earier he was just "hanging around" with tendencies to cheat but could have realized his mistakes and done taubah and corrected himself...but now, she put a weak man in an environment to actually go further.
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That's a good way to look at it......
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it's like dangling a bagel in front of someone on south beach or alcohol in AA meetings.. if someone has a weakness why not help them through it - instead of creating a environment where one cannot resist and saying "AHA - I kneeeeww it"
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to nail the guy......and fulfill the self professed phophecy.......
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Wife suspects husband of cheating on her.
She hires someone to seduce him to see if he will take the bait (OR have someone flirt with him online OR hire a private investigator). He ends up cheating on her..
Was it wrong of her to do that?
how about instead of hiring someone to flirt with him online, she flirts with her own hubby in disguise.
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well.......he is the husband......she could get caught.......and she don't want fail.......so she gets a 'professional to do it..........also she is having self esteem issues about her body n stuff already..
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how about instead of hiring someone to flirt with him online, she flirts with her own hubby in disguise.
Unless the wives are excellent at disguising their true personalities, most husbands would know if they are talking to their own wives.
This reminds me of an old episode of Saved by the Bell where Zack Morris' girlfriend tries to seduce him wearing glasses, a blonde wig and trench coat; he refuses her advances saying he has a girlfriend and in the end reveals that he knew all along it was her. Sure it was comedy but it shows that this is not a rarity and there are women who use tactics such as this.
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Nope. He should be strong enough to resist temptation.
Like girls dont get asked out even when they're married? Its a matter of self control and the loyalty you owe to your spouse.
I dont care if she danced for him naked, he should be man enough to walk away.
again, i agree with reha Lol
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I think if she suspected him of cheating, she should have sat him down and talked to him about it. If he denied it and there were still some signs and symptoms, then she could have found other means to satisfy her suspicions, but putting him in a situation to commit repeated gunnahs, or perhaps the first gunnah wasn't too bright. Maybe earier he was just "hanging around" with tendencies to cheat but could have realized his mistakes and done taubah and corrected himself...but now, she put a weak man in an environment to actually go further.
I know what you're saying makes sense Niks but I dont think I would be able to look at it like that if I was in that situation. I think I would be furious and just the idea of him being weak enough in our marriage to cheat would hurt me to the core. Maybe the woman in Sara's example self-sabotaged as a way to get out of the marriage? Because she felt so betrayed by him even thinking of cheating she made sure he did so she could get out?
I dont know...Im just throwing out stuff.
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^Makes sense. Perhaps she needed a solid, concrete reason to take the big step. This way she would be at ease in leaving the marriage. It's her way of helping herself, as twisted as it may be.
And I agree that not just cheating itself, but the man being weak enough to consider such an idea is hurtful.
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I think if she suspected him of cheating, she should have sat him down and talked to him about it. If he denied it and there were still some signs and symptoms, then she could have found other means to satisfy her suspicions, but putting him in a situation to commit repeated gunnahs, or perhaps the first gunnah wasn't too bright. Maybe earier he was just "hanging around" with tendencies to cheat but could have realized his mistakes and done taubah and corrected himself...but now, she put a weak man in an environment to actually go further.
I agree.
It's wrong to throw in temptations like that and expect your husband to stay strong. I wish men were strong enough like that but most aren't i suppose. You can't compare men and women here either cuz they are made differently on so many levels, its just not the same.