lower expectations in arrange marriage me thinks, or should be.
anyways islamically thats the only way to go,yet people like to have an idea of the person thats why probably cousin marriages are so common in muslims. marrying a stark stranger is bit out there and also an important factor is who is arranging your marraige. if it is somebody that you think will not consider your preferences then you have a prob and i guess gives one a license to break away from the method. marraige is always a risk even in best of conditions. unless you find something that you cant deal with ,not much one can do.
mere shaadi main 12 din baaqee hain or main apnay UN k sirf naam or kaam say hee waqif hoon chusni
even maini koi tasveer bhi nahi dekhee mujhay nahi pata tha woh kalay hain ya goray patlay hain ya motay ..lambay hain ya chotay ..
mere dono bhaiioon nay baree koshish kee k main tasveer dekh loon .. yahan tak kay desk top per set ker dee k computer on keray gee to dekh lay gee smilestar
lakin mainy phir bhi nahi dekhee ...itnee acheeeeeeeeeee bachi hoon main
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yeh alag baat hay mere bhai ammi cousions sub tasveer dekh dekh ker mujhay tafseelat batlaatay rehtay hain smack
sub ko chaeye mujh say sabaq seekhain chai
Well done to you if u want that kinda thing. But ur acting like its gunnah to see ur husband to be before u get married. its actually allowed in islam to choose ur husband so being blind before u get married is a personal choice. i personally wouldnt want ppl to 'learn' from that.
lakin mera ik ik harf such hay ..is ki wajah shaaid yeh bhi h k mujhay shak lo soorat say kabhi itna lagaao nahi raha ..mera nazdeek jin cheezon ki ahmiyat thee woh mainy Ammi say pooch lee …so main mutmain hoon Alhumdulilah !
Folks as you know most of my threads ask a question or ask to share stories. I have decided to declare best post in each of my threads in AV forum. So this is the first of my threads with best post identified.
I am the only judge. I will try my best to keep my biases and prejudices out of my judgment.
before nikkah those perosns r tottly namehram for eachother ... islam doesnt allowed any meeting between them befor any sharyee relation..so how can we said its not sansibillity ?
That's totally not true! People can meet w/ a shaparon in Islam. If you believe Islam requires hijab than the girl should wear it when she meets the person but if she has a mahrem with her she can definately see the guy and the guy can see her (I said see not touch!)