Re: This one is for me.
Mirch, I agree with you but have a couple of issues. I've seen and heard of more than a couple of arrangements that were made by parents for reasons of prestige or keeping things "in the family" etc meaning reasons OTHER than matching for the happiness of their child. When a parent or other elder finds a match that is based on their love and concern for their child and their child's future happiness then I'm in complete agreement with you....elders know their child better than anyone else. And as long as a match is made with those things in mind, I think tis a wonderful thing. And although I;m gori, I do hope my boyz give me a little say in who they choose or even let me choose for them :)