This marriage is a punishment

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@soundarya

Did you apologize to his mother for being rude? How is she with you now? I know that there are evil MILs and it’s hard to control your emotions at times. But you can deal with problems by keeping your tone in check, defend yourself and not insult the other person… though it is difficult. You could have a talk with him about forgiveness, bring up religious views on it. Just like how you’re saying you want him to move out, basically get out of your life… maybe he’s thinking the same but doesn’t want to address it directly, and is clinging onto the past to create problems?

Don’t ignore the problem. Talk things out with him, work your marriage out. Figure out why he’s being moody- is it you, his job, money, stress, etc. You have kids, they’ll see how you two are behaving. Maybe he’s stressed out and you two need a vacation.

Agree with Soundi.

Were you in the wrong with this mother? If so, did you apologize to her? If your MIL is horrible toward you…she’s not going to change unless she decides to snap out if herself. If she’s made up her mind to hate you…there’s nothing you can do change her. Bottom line: You can’t change her. And frequently stressing over someone who isn’t going to change is only going to take its toll on YOU. And who knows? Maybe your MIL wants you to get upset…maybe she wants her comments/actions to get under your skin. Don’t give her the satisfaction. You can’t change her but you can change how you react to her. Simply…don’t react to her. Kill her with kindness. When the offender sees that we’re calm as a cucumber and happy as a clam…it burns them. I know it’s easier said than done…but if your MIL is the main source of contention here…try not to let her get to you.