Re: This is serious!
You know, there are nicer ways of saying the same thing and more “political” ways of handling the situation.
He should discuss with his wife and the extended family (in-laws, his parents) where/if appropriate what his expectations are and at that point put the onus on the wife to either change and fulfill her duties as a wife and partner. If she is unwilling to do so, she should agree to either him remarrying or taking a khula or divorce.
The point is - he needs to put it back on her so that the family, immediate and extended, knows that he tried to make the marriage work and that she was the one who failed in the marriage.