i have got a cousin who recently got married..it was an arranged marriage.
After the wedding she was telling me and she said when my parents fixed it n all i was ok abt it..felt excited during the preparations and on the wedding day i was enjoying myself looking beautiful and ordering people around. I didnt feel much.
But when the qazi came to me and asked ‘the question’, suddenly it just hit me…this is it? after i say yes..i will somehow become distant from my family…and belong to someone else and the relation will never be the same again…i will be parayi now.
for those of u who are married…did u feel the same way?
how was your experience when the question popped up?
Relationships are what you make of them. They don't just magically change, grow, or diminish. It depends upon the amount of effort each person puts in and the attitude toward the relationship. There is no reason to think that marriage will make you distant from your family unless you become distant yourself. Yes, the relationship will change, because you are no longer in the same house, and have obligations to the spouse and your new family as well. But it is not a death sentence.
Okay why are girls so stupid? Do they think marriage is all about pretty clothes and being a bride and don't even realize that oh wait, ther'es a relationshpi too, afterwards? Better yet what is wrong wiht the parents that they think just b/c their daughter is a certain age that she's mature enough to make such a big step?