I’m so confused these days. I feel like Ive been put in this situation by so many people I care about but right now it’s a at a point where it really hurts. If someone close to you out of anger keeps on hurting you, should you just back away or let them be almost I guess in way verbally abusive to you. I keep on telling myself that it’s too much that I should have some pride for myself but I just care too much that even contact where your being treated badly is worth it. It’s not physical abuse but its just where the other person blatantly does or says something to hurt you . I dunno, I’ve had 3 people that I deeply care about do this to me, but this time it really hurts, and i just feel like I’m such a weak individual for letting them do this to me.I have to consider that they are obviously upset and need to do this to get their anger out and I’ve done something too make them upset at me but should one be treated this way?.
People will walk on u if u let them. Its never okay for anyone to abuse u verbally, especially someone who loves u or is a friend. One who doesnt, need not ur friendship. People will treat u as badly as u allow them to.
Well belle, it's the ones we love most that can make us feel on top of this world or down in the pits. It amazes me. I didn't think it was possible for anyone to drive us through a roller coaster of emotions the way some can. Unless it's your parents doing this to you, it's best to avoid whoever maybe hurting you intentionally. They're not worth the pain. I feel I have been hurt by people but unfortunately blood ties are quite hard to sever. It's not easy desensitizing yourself either. No one should have the right to make you feel like crap, usually it's their own insecurities that come out in the form of abuse for others. You shouldn't have to put up with it. Sometimes there are no simple solutions, at least I haven't found one.
Time heals everything. Not that you can totally erase it but time does help in coping up with your problem. Instead of putting yourself in a melo-dramatic situation, I guess it would be better to listen to the people you care about and once they are done verbal ranting, do let them know that how much do you care about em and how much your emotions have been shaken because of their behavior. Whenever I have made them realize, they apologize and it also decreases their bashing on you every now and then plus it also makes them think about it before doing it. In my case, I often just keep it with myself due to my dear ones' behavior which I believe has made me stronger over time.
I understand I'm scattered all over the palce but I hope it makes sense.:)
Belle trying to deal with loved ones is like someone struggling to get out of quicksand. The more you try the more you sink. The best way out is to just let things be and let time heal everything. Meanwhile to help you get some strength to stay put (while time does its job) you can look at people more unfortunate than yourself and thank God that your miseries arent a tiny bit of a fraction compared to what the rest of the human race is going through. Don't mean to say your problem is any less significant but its just one way of dealing with things.
