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sorry to disappoint but it’s a very REAL hypothetical situation

Say you’re good friends wiht someone, very close and all. You and yoru friend also have many mutual friends and are just one big happy group. Eventually, that friend cuts you off…you’re not exactly enemies, but you’re not close anymore, you don’t hang out, you don’t speak to each other (though you very easily could meet up often and keep in touch but that friend isn’t interested in any of that).

Now that friend, is very much in touch with your mutual friends, even certain family members. Not super duper close, but they talk to them helluva lot more than they talk to you.

Would you be bothered by it?

(TL;DR: your friend has cut you off and is now befriending your friends and famliy members).

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no man.

just live your own life. it's too short. friends are overrated. and good friends are underrated. : )

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really? you wouldn't feel like... "im not good enough to hang out with but my friends and family members are?"

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I might sound rude but if it happens without any reason then jealousy plays a major role

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Ofcourse its hurtful and I would wonder what I did but really you can't do anything. You can't make them your friends again so I suppose you have to move on and live with it. Also, if the friend was a real friend they would talk to you if there was a problem.

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hmm if what happens without any reason?

Yeah. it did occur to me suddenly that it may be hurtful to the other person. but that friendship wasn't that great or healthy either and that's hwy they're not friends anymroe

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If someone cuts u off without any reason then I guess thats cause of jealousy..happened with me back in college..all my close friends used to say oh you are so lucky..tumhe kya fikar blabla..and then after college they cut off..they are still in contact with each other and others but not me..all this was without any reason:grumpy:

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Off Topic!

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May be that friend is seeing more benefits in your other common friends ( selfish World )

so move on - and dont take tension

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Depends on whether I'd felt like I wanted to be friends with this person. If they're not interesting enough for me to remain friends with, then I wouldn't give a crap if they cosied up to my relatives. Good luck to them more like, if they wanna handle my lot.

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I could understand why that would be annoying if things ended between you and the friend on bad terms. If it's just that the friendship fizzled out, I don't really see why you should be too bothered about it. Like Philo said, life is too short for this kind of crap.

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friends dont really do that u know. plus u know where they stand in your list.

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bleh........

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i have been the ' bad' person described in this thread. most of my friends are family friends and the person things went bad with, her sister and family had been my friends.. just bc things went bad with one person, i was not going to cut off ties with the rest. i kept good relations and manners with the family in hopes that some good may come out of it and thats how i think.

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It would bother me. I might act like it doesn't but it would. If you want to cut me off and then my near and dear relationships also go with me.

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I would subliminally direct my most self centrred relatives in the ex friends direction.

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It would bother me, and I'd probably obsess over it. But I shouldn't.

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Been there.
I know it should not have been a big deal,but it was and is and no matter how much I ignore it,it does bother me sometimes,although I am not vocal about it ever.

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It would bother me, it does bother me but life goes on :)

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But you were already friends with her sisters and family. That is a different scenario and nothing bad about it.

I understood in OP's post that the ex friend befriends the family and friends after he/she cutt you off.