So I know babies are a blessing and a joy for any parent but lets admit it. life changes drastically after having kids. what is the one thing you wish you had done more often before you got pregnant? This could range from saving money or finishing school to taking that trip to france or hawaii when you could.
Reason I’m asking is…i’m a bit confused about whether i wanna concieve right now or not. on one hand, its a bit early in life and there’s sooo much i wanna do, see, experience before having a kid to carry in my arms alll the time. on the other hand i know it means sooo much to hubby, my parents, my MIL, etc cuz it’d be the first baby in our entire khandan and ppl are just waiting every second for me to announce it. of course, i def def want a kid and i’m ready in the sense that i’ve got a good education, awesome job opportunities, settled down etc but i still haven’t done all the things on my “wish list”. i’ve always wanted to go on a safari in africa. and go sailing and snorkeling and skydiving and i feel like all those things are gonna be permanently off the agenda after a baby. advice?
if you still feel that there are things that you want to do before you have a baby, such as travelling etc, i would say go for it!
having a baby changes your life totally. you no longer can do what you what. it's all about taking care of your little one.
you mentioned that you're young, so there's really no rush to have a baby since you've lots of time yet. are you newly married? if so, i say spend time to get to know your hubby and go places with him. experience things together so that it makes you stronger as a couple. when baby comes, there are so many other responsiblities and roles that you're going to have to fill, that your relationship with your husband gets put on the back burner without you even realizing it.
so enjoy life! you're only gonna have this chance once! :D
agreed with post above... enjoy ur life to max before u have a baby.. those who are waitin and dyin to know can ... well... continue dyin :D seriously its ur life enjoy it. i conceived 3 1/2 yrs after my marriage and my hubs is the oldest in his family so i m sure they were dyin for a baby but i was studyin for one yr after mrrriage , then i strted workin for 2.5 yrs so that kept me bz plus we were not ready so my hubs said it to his mum too.. let it happen after a yr or more.. then u shud b ready for this challenge and trust me u will enjoy preg also.. its beautiful feelin.. cant wait to see my lil pumpkin and see who she goes on face :D har cheez time pe achi lagti hia. how long u been married btw?
If I had a choice, I would take a trip with hubby pre-babies era.
I know how people say enjoy as much as you can , or get as much sleep as you can , but I dont think it works that way...I mean you cant really sleep for 5 days straight and then store it for when you'll need it.. your gonna be sleep deprived when your gonna be sleep deprived.
But yeah, I wish we had the chance to go away then, but back then we were always strapped for cash =)
We also had kids after about three years of being married, and even though I love my kids and the time we spend with them now, we still cherish the memories of the time we spent alone :)
Go for hajj before you have kids! I never thought i'd go for hajj before kids, but i'm sooo glad i did! You really get to know your hubby during this time and it's sooo hard to go with kids afterwards, you're going tohave to wait until their all grown up or leave them with relatives.
Go for hajj and any other places you would like to visit. I adore our daughter but if we had the chance to go before she was born, we would have definetly gone for atleast hajj.
regarding education, you already have that, so that shouldnt be a worry. I am finishing up my masters with a 1 year old and even though its not impossible, its certainly not easy. She constantly wants to snatch my books and flip through them instead of hers, lol.
If it was up to me, finish my school first but then Ira's post has given me some good amount of confidence.
As much as I love the idea of becoming a parent I would have loved to go snow skiing, shark diving, open track racing & owning our own house before we had the little angel.
pkgrl000 its all about your own personal understanding with hubby. Yeah things do change after you have a baby. Heck they change the day you get pregnant but at the same time as much as this is our choice, it kinda depends on our hubbies too. Sometimes we might stretch it too much & husbands can't wait to become fathers. As I said its a mutual decision.
Other than that yeah if you have things on your agenda. Do 'em before. Because after the baby it will take many years for you to do extreme things.
Its not just about baby keeping you busy, its about you being a responsible parent & making sure that whatever you do you always know there is someone depending on your life too now.
awww...thanks for all your replies guys. I just sometimes feel like I'm being too selfish because I know everyone wants to do this traveling/living crazy unpredictable life thing before kids but it doesnt always happen for everyone. I desperately want kids even though we've only been married for less than a year (you're thinking that's ridiculous but there have been major fertility probs wit some cousins of mine which is why everyone is so on edge abt it) but am soo scared to devote the rest of my life to them and give up all those stupid dreams. I mean, we had an awesome honeymoon and we do crazy things every now and then so I guess I'm just afraid of the change in lifestyle that'll come. Great idea to do hajj though hadn't even thought about that part!!!