Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

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I want to take all my books, but my mother said it’s going to be difficult because they are too many. I could put them in my parents home and then every year, when I come here, take a few to Pakistan. But I’d much rather take them all.

Does anyone have any idea about how much it would cost? What would be the best way to take all those books, I have more than 100 books I think.

I want to take the computers and games and dvd’s of my children. It will be difficult for them to get used there, so if they have their own games and computer and if possible internet there, it’ll be less difficult perhaps.

What else should I think about?

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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

You can always cargo things like books or furniture but obviously it can be expensive.

Which city or area would you move to? Things to think about include weather conditions, schools for your children, other amenities, travel options like buying a car.

Full Time Masti - May 2013
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I didn't think about the weather. I hope my children will get used to that.

We're moving to Kotli I think. We also have a home in Rawal Pindi. Maybe I'll go there. But probably it's going to be Kotli.

Full Time Masti - May 2013
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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

Don't decide anything in a hurry or while you're agry or in despair. Let things calm down and then decide if you need to move or not.

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My mother told me also to think about it first, but I really think it's the best solution.

Full Time Masti - May 2013
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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

After reading all your posts here, why on earth would you move to Pakistan????????

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Book a shipping container it will cost you around 1700-2500$, send whatever you wanna send.

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Kotli has always great weather, very scenery. You will be happy their :k: !

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My mother assured me that my family members won't be interfering with my life if I live alone in our own separate family home. She said that the neighbours there would never try to argue with me, that nobody would try to fight with my children there. Also I could have a nice job in Pakistan. I've been trying that for years here, but nothing.

Even when I wasn't depressed, nobody gave me a job. I was the only one of my pharmacy assistant class who didn't get a diploma because nobody wanted to give me chance to work in their pharmacy. I could get peace and quiet in Pakistan, and I will remain in our own separate house so my Aunties won't interfere with my life. I can earn money there, here I will never get a job. There are some people even in Pakistan whom I know from my childhood days, they visited us here regularly and there are people who used to live here, but moved there. Family and non-family.

Here in Holland, I've been very hurt even by some Pakistani people who were acting strange towards me from the time of 2003-2004, suddenly they didn't visit me anymore, especially when I got my own home. I invited a few and nobody came, some of them made strange remarks or were just unfriendly towards me for no reason at all, there were no fights, no arguments, nothing. Why did they do that? Then suddenly, in 2007 a few Pakistanis suddenly reappeared in my life, suddenly they wanted to be my friends again, they never told me why they had been unfriendly before, and now they had decided they wanted to be with me again.

When I am angry with friends, I tell them why, I always explain them why, but nobody explained to me why suddenly nobody wanted to be my friend anymore. I accepted that situation. I can live with books and movies and the person who is alone, has Allah, so we never really are alone. Anyway, without explaining why they were first unfriendly during those years, they were suddenly here, in 2007, I was waiting for them to explain, like I always do in such situations, why they behaved like that and why they suddenly now wanted to be friends with me again. But no explanation!

They hurt me deep in my heart without explaining why and then they suddenly wanted to make it up to me, again without explaining why. I don't trust that and without explanation, I don't like that. I'm not a thing, I'm not something without emotions and feelings. What is this? People can hurt me whenever they want to and then suddenly be friends again whenever they want to? Without any explanation?

Not just Pakistani friends, also some other friends did that. I've accepted that life by now. I'm not used to being with people anymore. I tried to when suddenly after being alone, I was with people again, but I'm just not used to that anymore.

In Pakistan, I want to get used to it again, I grew up in Pakistani society so I know how to behave in Pakistan. That could help me. And from what my mother told me, I can have peace and quiet there. I can slowly get used to people again. Then I can get a job. There are many reasons to go there.

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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

Maybe you should take your children on holiday there first, just to see what it is like and how they adapt to it?

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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

The grass looks always greener on the other side of the fence but now that if you've decided to move to pak then good luck.

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I just realised that I still have things to pay off! Computers and furniture, things like that. So I won't be leaving this year.

My son and I were just talking about the trouble I went through, to paint my appartment, to make it pleasant. We imagined living here for years. I was looking forward to finishing all the books I still want to read and to visit the places I want to see.

Now I'm doubting again. My original idea was, to perhaps move to Pakistan after my children would have grown up and could take care of themselves, perhaps even be married by then.

Then I'll just continue my life as it is now. Waiting for the years to pass. Reading and watching films. Not reacting to people who try to fight with me.

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That is perhaps a better idea. Now that I've read the grass is greener on the other side comment, it does remind me of the fact that my children and me were ill the first weeks when we visited in 2000, because of the water we had drunk. And I missed the foods which you can't buy there.

I just don't know what to do anymore actually. I've noticed I'm in one of those moods again, when I think I should do this or do that, just to be able to feel less helpless perhaps. I don't know.

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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

The problem with kids throwing food at your house can be solved easily by using spy cameras or other way is to have a watch dog.

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Re: Things to think about when moving to Pakistan

^^^ Or perhaps moving into a different neighbourhood? Where no one will really have anything to do with you.. and maybe where there are other desi families you & your kids could get on with?

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i'm not so in favour of moving out just because some kids are throwing eggs and stuff at your door.