Glad to hear Mehnaz :-D
Chandbeti, there is no reason why someone should live like a slave. Again, it’s the level of maturity and judgment on your part that should dictate when you should take action and when to let things go. If a woman is equally an idiot as a man then chances of a relationship to survive or a man to repent are minimal.
P.A, its those 'other woman' who make the world go round :-D
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women bash men for not having their libido in check etc etc.. what they forget is that 'most' men cheat on their women with other women... why don't women see any blame on the "other woman" and their hormones etc.
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Supposedly God gave men a brain and some sort of morals. If someone talks him into jumping into a well its his fault not the person who talked him in to it. Had he not been so dumb he wouldnt have followed to start with.
In a cheating situation if he has any morals or any sincerity he won;t be cheating to begin with. If he does only he is to blame.
fayz: when u think one shoud take action? After being beaten to death by the abusive spouse or after getting to know about the illegitimate child your spouse has with the other person? Most people or atleast I would take action well before any of this happens, or am I being arrogant ?
Itna ghussa (and you are not even married yet :-p). Like I said, take action when you think is the right time and face the consequences of your decisions accordingly.
How come you lot are only bashing the guys?
MQ, they are taking badla from waqas since he said ,
“Ok I’m getting really sick and tired of you silly girls and your crazy ideas of unconditional love.” 
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How come you lot are only bashing the guys?
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cuz usually men cheat on women
Well I can only speak from my own experiences and what I have seen around me.
Perhaps I should clarify a few things..
By cheating I mean intentionally having an affair with someone else while you are already committed to a serious relationship...not just having good friends, or simply talking to someone of the opposite sex.
With physical, emotional, and verbal abuse I’m not talking about an occasional ‘poor choice of words’ said in anger. I mean prolonged, all the time cause ‘this is just his/ or her nature’ treating you like crap!
I guess what I’m saying is one has the right to speak up if they don’t like the way they are being treated and demand the other person change. If they don’t and the problems is severe they should have the sense and guts to leave for good.
You do have the right to be selfish sometimes especially when it comes to your own safety, happiness and peace of mind.
Yes you should always try to work things out… but what if regardless of all the promises and temporary good behavior things do not change?
.. and we men are totally baffled at worrying about this blessing from girls! as a member of this men club dont throw away the few good cards we are carrying :o
finding that rare gem and hanging onto him leads me to the question…
why do women then get classified as being easy? if ur hanging on to that lovely opal.. why are u told to play games? 
alright sadzz once again you're taking my thread in a different direction?