Things keep falling apart

Lifestyle Relationships
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Common cycle of baat pakki gets done quickly, usually girls side is eager for us to give an answer. We say yes, everyone is happy, girl is happy parents are happy. Then a few weeks later out of the blue and overnight the girls family backs out and barely gives any excuse. This has happened several times now

I just cant figure out what keeps happening?

Has this happened to anyone?

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Re: Things keep falling apart

It could happen once to anyone - the other person changed their mind, it sucks, but that's life.

But if it's happened several times do you think maybe it's not the girl and her family, but there's something about you or your family that causes them to say no?

What's your family, how do they handle the interaction with the girl and her family - does their attitude and expectations change between the initial meet-and-greet and post-the-baat pakki?

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maybe the social-aunty media is abuzz with some scandal about you? background check turns up red flags?

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Things keep falling apart

^^ THAT!!!!!

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Hmmm usually wouldnt the other familly do their background check on me before they say yes? If there was some gossip going around they wouldve heard it by then. Usually we spend a couple of months before giving any answer.

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all the best.

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i'm with queer on this one .... i know someone who got a call from some aunty of the guy telling them xyz stuff about the guy and asking them not to mention their name as they don't want their realtions with the family to get sour but since htey have a daughter they felt like they should let the girl's family know about the info they had which was absoloute BS If you ask me

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How can I find out if someone is doing this to me?

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marry someone with same background as you. if u know what i mean.

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Things keep falling apart

It can happen. The only way you can find out about them is perhaps ring up past rishte or thieir acquaintences and casually find out what the real issue was. Be persistant until they give in.

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involve some third party and do this ^. At least you will have the answer instead of wallowing in sorrow :(

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Word...my cousin got calls too after engagement that don't marry the guy you agreed to....

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Maybe it's kala jado?

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Re: Things keep falling apart

Could be

1: Something your family does to the girls family after the yes?

2: Someone is calling them up with some not so nice stuff about you?

3: Change of heart? Bad luck? Not in your naseeb, perhaps?

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have you tried googling yourself?

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Either your/your family's behavior is changing for the worse after the baat pakki or there's some gossip going around. In any case, involve a third party to casually ask the people that have rejected you (maybe) to see what they say.

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its all kismat .. thats it .. nothing else

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Hawwwwwwwww :sid: