they talk about me behind my back...

[Sara516]

@pashy

hahahahaha, you think i should take that risk..shoudl i go all " dont bull**** a buller" on her?? lol..
you know i agree with one of the guppies above who said that it will all pass and let ehr do what shes doing..after all, how much can abd will they talk about me. buri ho ho ke bhi kitni buri ho sakti houn right? my MIL has gone to the extent of saying stuff like i sit online doing ‘khee khee khee’ (implying i am talking to another guy) to a distant family member of mine. and it occured to me, that because she cant find definite flaws in me and my hubby has never REALLy complained about me, excpet for an incident or two where just like every normal married couple we both have had a few seconds of disagreement!.. she resorts to this kind of bull about me.. ant yet, theres my other un-married dewrani in khi, who posts her photois with males cpusin standing ’ seena ba seena’ and not a owrd about her by anybody. i dont judge her or anything but i mean WTF?!? THAT is something youd think she and her crapminded family memerbs would talk about but nooooo. pick on the quite one. bunch of losers!

If shes unmarried how is she your devrani?

and..watch the language. No swearing (or getting around the censors) allowed here.

[jalpari90]

@pashy

y ? you think only nunds and mils can be *****y? you see, i have noticed this behaviour of hers over the time and i have seen her ask stuff to my sas about people (that my sas has something against.in my case, my parents didnt give ‘enough’ to my hubby at the wedding so that gived her the right to hate me for the rest of my life and never treat me and my kids equally) so that my sas can have something nasty and mean to say about them.. for example:
Sceanrio1:
Dewrani: " mummy, bhabi pak aa rahi hain, tou aap bhabi ke liye kapre bana ke rakheingi?" (she knows my sas is not someone who will do that; why cant she ask me this instead)
Saas: (with a sneer) " main kiun banao, mere liye dekhna kuch nahi laye gi , pichli baar bhi aai thi tou aisa bekaaar bag aur perfume lai thiiiiiiiiii"… and so on.
Sceanrio 2:
Dewrani:" Mummy mammu ki dawat main momani ne kia pehna tha?"
Saas(with a wicked laughter and sneer) :" alllllllaaaaahhhhhh aisi bekaar lag rahi thiiiiii. itna bara soney ka settttt itna bura lag raha thaaaaaaaa (obviously the opposite)".

and guess what, she has formed an ‘alliance’ with my sass most hated enemy, her nand!! my sas ki nand calls my dewarni fron khi but doesnt care calling my sas or her own bro cos of issues, and dewrani teases my sas by mentioning it!!!LOL..
so yousee, she lies to ignite issues and fights and misunderstanidng and just brushes off her hands and walks off.

This will go own since this is submerged in their second nature. You should turn a deaf ear as long as no one is stepping on ur toes.

[jalpari90]

@Sara516

If shes unmarried how is she your devrani?

and..watch the language. No swearing (or getting around the censors) allowed here.

To be dewarani. must have been engaged to her devar.

[Red_Ruby]

Re: they talk about me behind my back…

Pashy i had this same point in my SIL from pakistan thread.

i know what ur going thru as its not so different for me, as my SIL portray themselves as sumat theyre not aswell.

[MIAinVA]

How do you know your devrani is telling you what your MIL actually said and not lying… I wouldn’t even encourage such conversations… she must be exaggerating. If she said MIL was saying that about you, I would say please mind your own business, no need to tell me anything that MIL says about me. Why are you listening to her gossip?

[tinker_bell]

Re: they talk about me behind my back…

IGNORE her!