Re: THEY HATE ME!!!!!!!
I'd say "Proceed with Caution". If its at all possible, spend time with the family to see how it goes, let them SEE that you're willing and able to conform to their idea of "good wife". You'll have troubles if they refuse to accept you still. And since your intended wants to live so closely with them, he will be more inclined to go along with them than you'd think. See whether he'd be willing to live away from his family (not that you should do that, just try to see what his reaction is....that will give you an idea of how much weight YOU carry with him as opposed to his family.) As a gori, I've had so many warm welcomes into my husbands family....but I have to say that I've seen "outsiders" who think that there is absolutely NO gori, half gori or westerner who would make a "good" wife since in their view, they are godless, evil etc etc etc. You could possibly find yourself in a situation where you'd have to be extremely careful of the stove which has been known to be the culprit in some nasty and fatal "accidents". Sorry to sound mean and negative but you really do need to carefully evaluate here.