I’m stuck in a huge dilemma.
Last week, I had a chemistry exam. It was on a Saturday and my best friend/roommate and I ate fries from the school’s cafeteria the day before. We were both vomiting & feeling horrible that whole night. The next day we could barely get up from our beds due to the immense pain and decided to go to the hospital & as a result, miss our exam. We also had last minute studying to do the day before (looking over a few notes and whatnot) and weren’t able to do that because of feeling unwell on Friday. Saturday morning we both went to the hospital and had to stay there for 5-6 hours.
We told the doctor about our missed exam and he wrote us a note which we gave to our professor. Our professor rescheduled the exam to Thursday the next week so everyone who missed the exam were to show up that day. One of my so-called “close” (back stabber) friend missed it too but not because she had a legitimate excuse, but because she wasn’t ready/prepared for it and “didn’t feel like doing it”. This girl had missed a midterm for the same class last semester, and told the professor she was sick, when in reality she was perfectly fine! In fact, the very day of the exam in the evening, there was a party at our mutual friend’s house and she was dancing and prancing the whole time. I wonder what happened to her “illness” then!! I don’t feel it’s fair to others that one student gets so much extra time to study just because they don’t feel like it whole others who are not that well prepared write it anyway. That time she didn’t ask me what was on it because we weren’t that close.
She always does this and asks people what the exam questions were. It’s not fair to me, it’s not fair to anyone else. I swear to God I could have asked someone too, but me and my friend decided that no one knew the test questions on the actual day, so it’s not fair that we ask either. At the end of the day, Allah’s watching our actions.
The next day I met with another friend of mine and she pulled me to a corner and asked me if there was anything wrong or if she’d said anything to me because she felt I was avoiding her. This friend is very close with the friend I mentioned above so I maintain a distance because I know the other one is not good company! I told her no, and told her the truth: I was avoiding the other girl but since she was always with her, I couldn’t meet her. I told her of all the hurtful things she’d done to me and how much it affected and stressed me out. I used to praise her so much to my mom, until I found out her true colours! My friend told me of the same things she goes through. She basically bullies her just because she gives her a ride to school, and it’s not likes she’s doing it for free so I don’t understand the need for this!
The night before, the other “friend” texted me this:
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Does she think I’m a kid? :S the day that the exam was actually supposed to be on (rescheduled one that she was supposed to show up to as well) , she called me and told me she’s not ready. I told her I’m nearly done and if she wants she could come over and we can go over the material together. She said okay, and I told her to hold on while I go to the bathroom. When I came back, she hung up! I texted her and tried calling her several times but she didn’t reply until she needed something from me! 
I thought of helping her, little did I know of the sneaky plan in her head!
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I honestly didn’t know what to do. So I asked my friend and she told me that she’s just testing to see if I’d tell her or not and the night before when they were driving home together, she called my other friend and asked him what was on already! I was furious! I asked her what I should do and she told me to just tell her, I texted her back and told her what to study in general but nothing too big just for the sake of getting her off my back, which was a huge mistake! I should have told her off and told her that’s a way of cheating but she’s such a big fat bully! I’m only 19, she’s 30 with 3 kids! Wallahi she is SO CHALAAK! My friend told me of all the other things she’d done and said behind my back. I was so hurt, I honestly thought of her as an older sister.
So the poor professor rescheduled it for Friday. Guess what she does? She goes to university on that day, even does her lab with us and then leaves. I asked my other friend what happened to her exam, and she told me she was going to tell my professor that she didn’t read the email and to reschedule it… AGAIN!!! This is the 3rd time she’s doing this! She’s basically lying to him and he’s so nice that he keeps trying to reschedule it just so students can write their exam.
We were at a party today and she lied to my friend that she wasn’t going to come. She called me and asked me if I was going, and I said I’ll see, because I have lots of work. Plus my best friend/roommate wasn’t feeling well & she wasn’t going so I didn’t feel like going either. But then my sisters wanted to go, so I was still contemplating. It was around 4 at the time and I told her that the party starts at six na, so I’ll come then if I can. She said “what?! Party starts at six??” What happened was that she told my friend (the one who thought I was avoiding her) that she wasn’t going to come to her party, and so my friend rescheduled it from 1PM to 6PM. She only did it in the morning because her dad and brothers weren’t going to be home then so she thought it would be more convenient, especially for the other “friend” since she has kids. But then since she said she wasn’t coming anymore, she rescheduled it for the evening. The other “friend” had asked this friend to schedule it for another day, and she said she couldn’t because her family had already prepared for Saturday. Just because of this, she made a HUGE issue out of it, and it was my friend’s birthday on top of that! She makes a mountain out of a molehill! She showed up to the party despite telling her that she’s not coming, and said that she’s mad because my friend could reschedule for us and not her! But she was talking about a whole other day while we were just talking about timings on the same day! Ugh
Anyway, she showed up to the party and asked me again how my exam was to which I told her that it went well Alhamdulillah. Then I asked her how hers went even though I already know she skipped it AGAIN! She said it was “good”. After a few minutes, I brought it up again and she said, “I actually didn’t do it”. I asked her what she’s going to tell the professor now and she said that she’s going to tell him that she didn’t read the email so that’s why she didn’t show up.
My friend called me today and asked me a question about an assignment. After a while, I asked him if the friend who didn’t do her exam called her. He told me she did, and that he told her what was on the exam since she asked. I was going to spaz out at him because I was so angry! This guy is a close friend of mine and I could have called him and asked for the exam questions but I didn’t! Because I RESPECTED him and my other classmates. It’s not fair to him, it’s not fair to the others, it’s not fair to everyone who did do the exam. This guy was basically helping her cheat. And I’m sorry if I sound selfish but I don’t think it’s okay for one student who cheated to get 90% and another student who studied all week, day and night to get 70%!!! It’s just not fair!! Not to me, not to him, not to my other classmates, not to my professor!
So basically my question is… what do I do now? I really feel the need the tell my professor this because I don’t feel it’s right that someone is cheating like this and not getting caught! Not to mention continuously LYING to him! That’s just not right!
I’m stuck in a position where I want to tell him, and at the same time I don’t.
I asked my mom what I should do and she told me to listen to my heart… but I don’t know what to do! I told my mom that Allah exposes everyone one day, and what they do eventually comes back to them, but I feel I should inform my professor of this at least.
Why I want to tell him:
- because it’s not fair. Cheating is just not right.
- he’ll be more cautious in the future.
Why I don’t want to tell him:
- if he tells her I told him all this, there will be a HUGE fight and family drama because all of our families know each other
- my professor will get really angry and will feel betrayed
- my friend who told this girl the questions might get in trouble too for telling, but this guy is honestly so gullible and naive. I don’t want him to get in trouble too
my professor may get really angry at him and I don’t want him to end up in a mess… He’ll hate me for life - my professor may bring up my name and I don’t want him to.. it’ll cause a huge issue even if he mentions that he knows she asked people for the exam questions.
- he might even kick her out of the class, which again I don’t want because she is a huge bully with mental issues and if she finds out I told, she’ll go to huge lengths to get her revenge! I’m not kidding. Once we went to a mall and there was a women who flipped the bird at us and she drove so fast around the parking lot just to find her and do the same. Her husband got really mad and climbed on top of my “friend’s” car and started banging it! I was so scared & I told her to drive away or else he was gonna smash the window and beat us up but she stood there for a good 20 seconds thinking of ways to get them back
my professor may get really angry at him and I don’t want him to end up in a mess… He’ll hate me for lifeWhat should I do? Should I make istikhara? Should I leave it?
What my professor can do is change the exam, but that’ll be such a hassle for him. I don’t know, should I just tell him and let him deal with it? Perhaps I can tell him not to bring me into it? He’s Muslim too (I think, judging by his name) so maybe he’ll understand?
What do you think?