This is such a weird problem - I mean I can’t think of any equivalent to it here in the UK. You don’t get people living in your house to cook and clean for you, partly because our houses are not big enough, but also because I guess we have unlimited electricity and so machines do most of the work for us (hoover, washing machine, dishwasher… anything else??)
So I find it really weird to come to terms with the idea of letting a stranger come and live in my home. And then to find out that person is stealing from you - it must feel awful! I feel for you guys!
Poor you. the advise is to always have maids on reference.
we Alhamdulila never had any such problems with any of our maids. they all are trust worthy. Yes they do tend to ignore some of the work that they ought to do but if you can keep a keen eye on them then they know they cant get away with this.
Lets not get started on maids having affairs issues. With easily accessible cell phones and Bollywood romance and minimal common sense, these girls are easily led astray by roadside Romeos. Faced that way too many times.
I didn’t read thru all of it but the advice I can give you is…I have had to go thru at least 3 maids to find the right one or should I say had to ‘train’ one
Be strict with any paid help always…inside the home or outside the home this includes a nanny/mother’s helper. I am in the process of looking for a nanny for my children and the kind of namonay I come across…Jesus Christ
If anyone is caught in a lie deal with it right then and don’t put it off (I had someone who was walking away with my all-purpose cleaner spray along with her stuff - I gave her a tight warning right then and guess what she never returned, so that tells me it wasn’t a ‘mistake’)
Don’t befriend anyone, maintain a civil employee/worker relationship. I don’t allow my help to even enter my closet or have her indulge in any personal matter/conversation. I even don’t take any phone calls the hours she is working in my home. If I need to speak to my kids I take them in another room to do so.
I don’t necessarily hide my things perhaps because I don’t leave jewelry/watches/cash laying around anyway, but it’s always smart to be cautious
As a woman of the house, you deal with your help ALWAYS i.e. questions about chores/being paid etc. Not your husband/kids or any other family member
wow! When we were in Pakistan, we had a very warm relationship with our maids. They took good care of us and we took good care of them. They were honest and sincere. We trusted them and treated them like family. Seems like things have changed a lot in Pakistan.
