This is where you mentioned it.
Haing different opinions is not infiltrating minds.
But what I want to know through this thread is why do we see more and more couples moving out and/or seeing joint family system as a broken system?
For each couple it is different. But IMO there is inteference with how the couple should talk, how and where they go out, when to go out, what time to wakeup, what to eat, when to eat, what to say, when to say, how you say what you say, who you talk to, who you dont talk to, how much tv you watch, what you watch, what you wear, when you wear what you wear, who visits you, who is allowed to visit you, who allows visits of whom, who doesnt allow visits, who to ask for permission for visits of family and friends.
Adding children, where do they sleep? if Daddy has to go to work, kid is crying all night and the room is shared by mummy, daddy and munna. Then mummy is the one who gets scolded for munna crying all night. If there are more rooms in the house, still mummy is blamed for munna crying and daddy being disturbed from the crying. Daddy starts to resent everytime munna cries at night. Mummy starts to resent everyone for blaming her when munna cries. Munna grows with being scolded everytime he opens his mouth. The cycle continues.
And the result is a grown man thinking if my mother and father have lived in a joint family system, so can i and my wife and kids.
Some people are choosing to break this cycle or culture.