Re: There was an old lady who lived in a shoe…
How do you know they were? They had no choice.
My mum has 6 children. The latter 3 were caesarian after complications and she would be back on her feet making rotiyaan a few days later. I thought this was normal when I was a kid. Now I know it’s not. She just had no choice. Now she is paying the price for not taking care of herself or no one caring for her during those times, with health complications that are directly related. Oh, and no one outside the family would know because she hides it so well.
I think the toll of pregnancy and labour on the body is overlooked. It’s very easy for a man to say his wife should keep producing.
This. I’m definitely planning less than my mum. I don’t regret being the additional parent but I don’t want my eldest going through the same. And my youngest siblings definitely don’t have the same bond with my parents as I do and it’s a shame. Sometimes I feel my father has barely even gotten to their real selves.