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Re: There was an old lady who lived in a shoe…

@automne77

I come from a family where the generation before me had 11 and 13 kids. Out of the 11 kids only 4 survived but 1 died in childbirth and only 3 made it to their 40th and above birthday. The other family where there were 13 kids, I have interacted personally with all of them and** believe me having these many kids leads to a lot of insecurities and a lot of greed**. The greed is mostly there because they were too many of them and not enough bread, butter, milk to go around. And the fights and greed even continues to this day plus all the kids have this thing among themselves where they can’t get along with all their siblings. It is just sad.

I come from a generation where ppl had 4-6 kids usually and from what I have seen, the mothers were so busy with household work and the father was so busy trying to make ends meet, the kids were left to their own devices. No sit down talks, no going out every weekend. It wasn’t that parents were providing material things and ignoring the emotional well being. Both were not available much.

Today’s parents I feel are a lot lot more involved in their kids’ lives, women these days look forward to being pregnant, they enjoy their pregnancies (as much as that condition can be enjoyed),they look forward to welcoming their kids, and fathers also actively take part in the lives of kids. Even those parents who can’t provide a lot materially do try to give their kids time and take as much care as possible emotionally.

I have also come across a lot of ppl who say we should increase the ummah of Rasool Allah (Sallalahu alaie wassalam), I think this ummah needs quality more than quantity. Just churning out males and females is not the answer, we need to educate them islamically so they can be true muslims. I would rather see few strong muslim than a lot of weak imaned muslims.

Just my two cents.

There we go again … here the bad character trait of “greed” is linked with number of children … “greed” is a trait that is linked with the way a person is raised. People in our past have proven to us how even with hunger we can be charitable and avoid greed … we just want to blame something that has nothing to do with the actual problem. I’ve seen many single child families - the children are spoilt and hence become greedy and they can’t interact with others properly. Ultimately only 4 children survived which is not a large family at all and still there was greed …

And in households where there are many children then the parents must delegate work - to attempt taking on everyone together is a fault in their nurturing process and will lead to problems in their effectiveness.