The worst time in a LOVE affair is.....

R.A.W · December 18, 2010, 6:58pm

When one doesn’t enjoy anymore every bit of it, the way it used to be in the initial stages. As the excitement & passion fades away and the commitments in the relationship becomes a daily routine, a duty that one forces oneself to perform one way or the other, but not with heart and soul.
I came to know of a widow whose husband died few years after marriage. The love & respect she expressed for him in front of his dead body, and how she repented for her piercing words in daily life that wounded a heart, which was going to be buried forever along with the thorns that could have been plucked out one by one, had she valued the limited time spent with him that was quickly running out. I wish if (InshaAllah) I also develop similar feelings for my wife every morning, considering it to be the last day of our life together, and utilizing each second to the maximum. How can I make her life more comfortable, considering all the possible options and picking the words/actions that can rise our mutual love. So that when one of us leaves forever at any stage, I don’t feel guilty that I could have developed more sincerity, dedication and forgiveness in every bit of the interaction that I enjoyed with her.
As we start to enjoy a relationship then even the most hectic duties related to it become easier. It amazes me that even the laziest girls after they become mothers, can easily wake up at mid night to happily change their child’s diapers & feed them milk with so much love, that it seems that this painful task is their best hobby. She values this blessing of Allah (swt) because of the painful 9 months that she had to go through in order to achieve it.
May be because I haven’t experienced such painful “Tests” in Allah’s obedience, I haven’t developed my relationship with HIM the way I should have, that is why at times I don’t seem to value it to the extent that it deserves. Taking 5 times meeting with Allah(swt) for granted and forcing my heart to pray with no interest. During prayers I have seen tears of sincerity in the eyes of those people who sacrificed their honor, money, status, time, food…etc. in obeying Allah’s order that is why they value this relationship with Allah (swt) more than people like me.
May be a person from 3000 B.C should come out of his grave to share with us how for nearly 5000 years he missed & longed for the pleasure of praying, in a grave where he was not allowed to pray, as the time of earning good deeds was over forever. In his dark grave he could only listen to Azan and footsteps of people going for prayers but himself he was left with nothing but regret forever.
If I am able to value every second of every relationship that I presently have, then I won’t waste time in useless activities and instead of taking anything for granted, enjoy every meeting, every word, every second & every thought of beloved ones with a warm feeling of sincerity instead of missing the opportunities of serving them, that nature blesses me with, from time to time.

FusionMiddleware · December 18, 2010, 7:01pm

Re: The worst time in a LOVE affair is…

when couples ver lik fed up of each othr n want som reason for an early breakup n they wont find any solid reason …

Jaweriya · December 18, 2010, 7:49pm