is the time when a person does not enjoy every bit of it the way he used to enjoy in the beginning of that relationship. When that excitement and passion fades away and he performs his duties in that relationship as a compulsion by making it a part of his daily life habits.
I came to know of a woman who became widow just few years after her marriage. When I heard about the love and respect she expressed for her late husband in front of his dead body, I wished if by the grace of Allah (s.w.t) I am able to develop the same feelings for my wife every morning when I wake up, so that when anyone of us leave at any stage, I don’t feel guilty that I could have enjoyed my time more if I had more sincerity in every bit of interaction I had with her.
When we start enjoying every bit of a relationship then even the most hectic duties related to that relationship becomes an enjoyment. It amazes me when mothers wake up at mid night to change the diaper of their child and feed them milk with so much love and smile on their face, that it seems this painful task is their best source of enjoyment. May be because of those 9 months they gone through with a lot of pain to achieve such a great blessing of Allah (s.w.t).
May be because I had not gone through painful “Tests” to develop my relationship with Allah, I at times don’t seem to value it as much as I should, may be my interaction with Him at times I take for granted and offer my namaz and other obligations as a compulsion or a habit instead of entertaining myself with every bit of it. As during prayers I have seen tears of sincerity in the eyes of (mostly) those people who have given a lot of sacrifices of their honor, money, status , time, food…etc. in the way of Allah (s.w.t) that is why they value this relationship more than people like me.
May be a person who lived in 3000 B.C should be taken out of his grave to tell us how much he missed reciting the name of Allah and praying in front of Him for nearly 5000 years during which he was not allowed to do so, because his time of practicing was over. If I am able to develop that for every relationship that I have presently then I wont waste time in useless activities and won’t take relationships for granted and enjoy every bit of them, every word of them, every step of them, and every thought of them with a warm feeling of sincerity instead of considering them a compulsion by making them only a part of my habits in daily life.
hmmmm,nice one...
i absolutely agree with you on all that which you have mentioned..
people usually take things for granted because,no one realizes how truly valuable everything in life is.if they take anything for granted now,but eventually they will regret not appreciating.
is the time when a person does not enjoy every bit of it the way he used to enjoy in the beginning of that relationship. When that excitement and passion fades away and he performs his duties in that relationship as a compulsion by making it a part of his daily life habits.
I came to know of a woman who became widow just few years after her marriage. When I heard about the love and respect she expressed for her late husband in front of his dead body, I wished if by the grace of Allah (s.w.t) I am able to develop the same feelings for my wife every morning when I wake up, so that when anyone of us leave at any stage, I don't feel guilty that I could have enjoyed my time more if I had more sincerity in every bit of interaction I had with her.
When we start enjoying every bit of a relationship then even the most hectic duties related to that relationship becomes an enjoyment. It amazes me when mothers wake up at mid night to change the diaper of their child and feed them milk with so much love and smile on their face, that it seems this painful task is their best source of enjoyment. May be because of those 9 months they gone through with a lot of pain to achieve such a great blessing of Allah (s.w.t).
May be because I had not gone through painful "Tests" to develop my relationship with Allah, I at times don't seem to value it as much as I should, may be my interaction with Him at times I take for granted and offer my namaz and other obligations as a compulsion or a habit instead of entertaining myself with every bit of it. As during prayers I have seen tears of sincerity in the eyes of (mostly) those people who have given a lot of sacrifices of their honor, money, status , time, food....etc. in the way of Allah (s.w.t) that is why they value this relationship more than people like me.
May be a person who lived in 3000 B.C should be taken out of his grave to tell us how much he missed reciting the name of Allah and praying in front of Him for nearly 5000 years during which he was not allowed to do so, because his time of practicing was over. If I am able to develop that for every relationship that I have presently then I wont waste time in useless activities and won't take relationships for granted and enjoy every bit of them, every word of them, every step of them, and every thought of them with a warm feeling of sincerity instead of considering them a compulsion by making them only a part of my habits in daily life.
Well said STP.......
reminds me what the mystic poet....Bulle Shah..........said:
Ee Pyar de Khatir Arsh banniya Ee Pyar de Khatir Farsh banniya
When we see people crying over the death of their close relatives, it acts as a WARNING for us (a thunder bolt for our mind) to utilize to our level best each and every second that we are blessed with our beloved ones because soon they would not be with us. But the greatest lost is after death when one would not be allowed to get even a single chance (in infinite years) to do anything to improve one's relationship with one's Lord, no matter how much sincere his intentions are.
