So… umm i think a thread regarding TALAK is already been posted here but my question is different …
i want to know tht some people say syaing TALAK 3 times at once is a talk… some say no in a life tym if husbands say 3 times tlak on different occasions even separately talak ho jati he…
i want to know ur opinions n what u think about it…
wese tu to ask we have a buzrg n our family i asked him n he says yes 3 times kehna ho ta he ab chahe woh aik baar kehdo yeh phr 3 different occasions pe ik ik bar…
lets c if i can have another theory or believe in it…
**sorry my main q of posting a thread is * agar husband wife ko 3 different occasions pe talak de chuka he but then cuz evry time its once n then they patch up n forget bout the talak part n they dont realize or actually didnt knew ke 3 differentoccasions per talak kehne se talak ho jati he tu after tht the time they spend together sharing lyf sharing bed shasring emotions… kia woh sab gunah zinha me include hoga…?
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This is what I know and I am too lazy to find/post a reference.
It is strongly disliked (from a religious point of view - it may even be bid'ah [innovation]) to divorce someone by saying Talaq Talaq Talaq at once.
The proper procedure to divorce is to say (while in your sane mind) Talaq once.
The conditions are:
The woman is not menstruating
The man has not had sex with her after her previous menstrual cycle ended.
She must not be pregnant. If she's pregnant, you cannot divorce her.
After the first talaq, husband and wife can still try to resolve their differences but after all 3 are given, the women has to marry someone else before she can remarry the former husband.
OH CMON PEOPLE M SERIOUSE HERE CAN PLZ SOME ONE ANS MY Q ITS KINDA EMERGENCY SOMEBODY IS GOING THRU THIS DRAMA RYT NOW RYT AT THIS MOMENT CANT NOONE HELP ME WITH THE ANS HERE.....
No witness is needed. Even the wife’s presence is not necessary. That is why people need to stop behaving like Bollywood heroes and heroines and understand that on the day of judgement it is Allah swt that will be judging us not Shahrukh Khan or Aishwarya Rai.
JJ, you started another thread like this…I have posted there as well.
Tell the couple you are talking about to consult an Imam, Mufti, Alim as soon as possible. I don’t think GS is the right place.
thnx niki baji thnx alot :) yeh i posted it here first n then there thinkn thts religious forum i may get an ans:)
Marraige is a declaration by two people in the sight of Allah and two witnesses.........No Maulvi Sahib required.....period.
Maulvi Sahib is only there to make dua for the couple.......
similarly Talak is to be recorded on paper by the husband and signed...........non of that he said she said business.....or if the wife demands Khulla she needs to record it........
In the old days paper was not as abundantly available commodity, even books were recorded on bones and leather..........
hence the need for repeating three times and uttured out loud voluntarily....
and not uttered in haste or in anger.......but when some one records it on paper and signs it.....it is more like a deliberate act and carries more weight.
Divorce is of three categories: raj’i (returnable), baynounah soghra (minor separation) or baynouna kobra (major separation).
In case divorce happens through the husband, he can take his wife back within three months. This is without any legal procedures, if they decide it - like they regret their rushing in divorce. In this case, the divorce is termed as raj’i or returnable divorce.
But in case of khul’, which is the second category, the husband can’t remarry his divorcée till all the legal procedures are done, all over again, and the husband pays new dowry for her.
Divorce happens three times in the couple’s lifetime. The third divorce falls in the third category, because they cannot go back to one another, till after the wife ‘happens’ to marry someone else, then ‘happens’ to get divorced by him. In this case, she can go back to her first husband. Such a tough rule was made as a punishment and a way of preventing people from misusing this tolerant ruling of permitting divorce. The word ‘happens’ is parenthesized because the woman’s new marriage and divorce should come naturally without planning, as many people might do to legalize her return to the first husband!
When does divorce become invalid?
In some cases, uttering the words of divorce become invalid. Among these cases is when the husband is:
drunk
forced to utter them by someone else
in a complete loss of temper to the extent that he is unaware of what he is saying
in an abnormal state of mind, such as temporary madness, epilepsy or in a coma,
The man only has to say the word talaak to you once each on each occasion...then comes the period of iddat where you still have the option to reconcile... if you dont reconcile, you're divorced.
THNX EVERY ONE THNX ALOT THEY WENT TO A MUFTI TODAY N HES SAYIGN SOME HOW THE PROCEDURE IS NOT HOW IT AHUD BE N IDDAT SE PEHLE HI THEY WERE TOGETHER F9 N THEY HAD SEX SO THE TALAQ IS NOT DONE... THEY BOTH R STILL HUSBAND N WIFE :)
i asked a scholar the same question and he said the man has to say talaq once every month for 3 months for the talaq to be effective. after they are divorced and the woman married another man so she can go back to her former husband it is not allowed. if it was over its over so u have to make ur decision very carefully to see if you want to live with that person or not.
I don't think saying the word "talak" reflects anything serious especially if it's being used in general conversation. Now if it was said intenionally to your spouse that right there is a different story.
