Re: The women that are in a polygamous marriage
there have been communities where women were in polyandrous marriages, meaning 1 woman would marry multiple guys and it worked out for them. so i guess it depends on your culture and tradition. to say a male needs more women to satisfy is a complete myth. both women and men can be in polygamous, polyandrous, or monogamous relationship depending on what they think is good for them.
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you must go to the interior areas of Pak like Sind and KP to find the answer since its common over there.
Or Utah apparently. "My Five Wives" anyone?
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While I agree with you about monogamy being unusual, I don't think you understand PCG's point. There is no denying that love is a chemical reaction but love itself has many phases which all people in long term relationships experience. Love evolves as people grow more mature. Brainwashing to accept that "love" doesn't exist will confuse any soul because everyone falls in and out of love. Regardless of our upbringing and our circumstances, all humans experience love at some point in their lives. That is PCG's point I believe.
I understand her point. My point is that love is a chemical reaction, meaning our bodies can be "tricked" into falling in love. Why do you think people suggest that married couples in a rut try new things? Because novel experiences with a person you've known for years simulate the same chemical rush as that of meeting a new potential mate. That's why dangerous things can result in bonding too, because fear is similar to infatuation. Therefore, if society accepted it, you could certainly be in love with multiple people, and this applies to both men and women.
However, historically and biologically speaking, polygyny was far more common, and it's thought that women are actually wired for deception, i.e. they prefer "sexy" guys when ovulating and providers, and "nice" guys the rest of the time. Happy thoughts huh?
I'm not advocating that women put up with second wives. I'm just saying that love is a habit and people can certainly love multiple people, and that men having multiple mates is more prominent than vice versa.
Re: The women that are in a polygamous marriage
there have been communities where women were in polyandrous marriages, meaning 1 woman would marry multiple guys and it worked out for them. so i guess it depends on your culture and tradition. to say a male needs more women to satisfy is a complete myth. both women and men can be in polygamous, polyandrous, or monogamous relationship depending on what they think is good for them.
Both men and women desire multiple mates, it's in our nature, but it's far from necessary. See my post above.
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Such woman are tortured and marginalized by society, hence they resign to their fate. Its the only way out they see, so they accept it. If they could, they would legislate to behead any man involved in multiple marriages.
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^ Hyperbole really helps
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KKF, why do you write in all caps? We understand you just fine when it’s lower case. 
Please don’t. It’s annoying.
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I'm not worried about it and I have no problems with polygamous marriage both men and women are not monogamous naturally I agree. But being possessive of someone you love is not taught, it comes from within and is natural. i think I just contradicted myself there. There's no room for emotion and it seems like a completely practical arrangement. I remember there were 1 or 2 women on here, not active members, that were in such a marriage.
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There are a lot of women in polygamous relations. An ex colleague, beautiful, educated, good job, earning enough by herself, married with a daughter, had an affair with a busninessman with grown up kids, divorced her husband and married this businessman who was already married TWICE.
Tehmina Durrani, a womens rights activist, married khar, who had been married 5 times before, in addition to his countless affairs. She is now married to Shahbaz Sharif, who again is married man.
Re: The women that are in a polygamous marriage
Both men and women desire multiple mates, it's in our nature, but it's far from necessary. See my post above.
thats what i meant as well. women can also desire multiple men just like men can want mulitple women. it just depends on the society we live in. if our society allowed polyandry, then we would see women marrying multiple men and men dealing with it just like women deal with polygamy
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ok this was a stupid post. My many..many years old question about husband wife dynamics were answered in* jumaah khutba*. I think I should go more often. 
Re: The women that are in a polygamous marriage
Consider the likelihood that women in a polygamous marriage are likely to be ones who married out of necessity; looking for a provider rather than a soulmate, a lover or a sex partner. A polygamous man is likely to be well off to have leveraged his providing ability to secure wives rather than his desirability.
Women in such marriages would be able to detach themselves easily from their husband. Its likely they may even consider it a blessing in disguise that he has taken a new wife and therefore taken the burden of sexual duties off of their shoulders (or vaginas).