some people dont like the idea of “girls making the first move” while others think “y should it alwayz be the guy who has to make the first move?”
if it ever comes to expressing your feelings…how many of u guys or girls would think twice before u do it just cuz u would start thinking whether or not YOU should make the ever famous “first move” ?
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*Originally posted by meea: *
some people dont like the idea of "girls making the first move" while others think "y should it alwayz be the guy who has to make the first move?"
if it ever comes to expressing your feelings....how many of u guys or girls would think twice before u do it just cuz u would start thinking whether or not YOU should make the ever famous "first move" ?
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i wud consider telling a guy that i like him, if i never had to see him again if he said no.
otherwise, that piece of information will go to the grave with me.
hmm i would tell the guy if i liked him... its better than regretting it for the rest of ur life...
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i wud consider telling a guy that i like him, if i never had to see him again if he said no.
otherwise, that piece of information will go to the grave with me.
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i kinda share the same thoughts u have, but there r ppl who dont take "no" for an answer !! i have had this experience several years ago where someone did not take my "no" for an answer and i am still trying to sort out that mess....but thats another thread in itself....
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i kinda share the same thoughts u have, but there r ppl who dont take "no" for an answer !! i have had this experience several years ago where someone did not take my "no" for an answer and i am still trying to sort out that mess....but thats another thread in itself....
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but thats kinda different haina? its not really about making the first move.... its more like not getting the point.. nahin?
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hmm i would tell the guy if i liked him... its better than regretting it for the rest of ur life...
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so true !!!
but where to get the guts from ?????
hmmm if u cant do it face to face... email the person..
u could do it in a discreet way or maybe get a friend to confess..
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i kinda share the same thoughts u have, but there r ppl who dont take "no" for an answer !! i have had this experience several years ago where **someone did not take my "no" for an answer and i am still trying to sort out that mess*....but thats another thread in itself....
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believe me i know what you mean!!!
Sadzzz - i think sometimes its better to keep quiet because u might lose a friend. i have been in this situation - where each of us thot about the other a lil bit more than a friend - but neither one said anything... and i think its better this way! because now we are gr8 friends...can talk about just about anything under the sun...and i think had either one of us verbalized the feelings earlier in life...then we wud have missed out on each other's friendship.
esp since there are no feelings on either side now!
i agree zidee.. i think sometimes it is best not saying anything and just accepting each other feelings and moving on...
but there are times i think that u really need to speak out... i think it all depends on the circumstances and the attitude of the person in question.. i think one idea cant apply to everyone.... hmmm
i wouldnt recommend every person to go and tell their secret crush about how they feel.. hehe lekin yeah kabhi kabhi i think its arrite..
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i agree zidee.. i think sometimes it is best not saying anything and just accepting each other feelings and moving on...
but there are times i think that u really need to speak out... i think it all depends on the circumstances and the attitude of the person in question.. i think one idea cant apply to everyone.... hmmm
i wouldnt recommend every person to go and tell their secret crush about how they feel.. hehe lekin yeah kabhi kabhi i think its arrite..
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how do you decide which "kabhi kabhi" is okay and when its not???
and i really don't think you will regret it if you don't tell some1 how u feel about them...cuz you'll just have to accept that it wasn't meant to be and thats why it didn't happen...not that it didn't happen cuz u didn't say anything. (does that make sense?)
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how do you decide which "kabhi kabhi" is okay and when its not???
and i really don't think you will regret it if you don't tell some1 how u feel about them...cuz you'll just have to accept that it wasn't meant to be and thats why it didn't happen...not that it didn't happen cuz u didn't say anything. (does that make sense?)
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hehe i got no clue... i dunno bout this feeling business.. lekin yeah i do know sometimes u just know when it needs to be said.. ok i know its pretty dreamy what im saying.... but... u just know..
oh and yes ur last sentence did make sense :) i cant say that ive actually told anyone in proper words and sentences.. i guess the person just figured it out and i agreed... but we became extremely good friends... even during my school years, people did admit to one another and in the end the friendship just grew really strong... i believe its totaly up to the person themselves how they react to the situation... my best friend is opposite to me... she will totally block the person out if she senses feelings.. whereas me being the dumb nut i am... becomes friends..
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hehe i got no clue... i dunno bout this feeling business.. lekin yeah i do know sometimes u just know when it needs to be said.. ok i know its pretty dreamy what im saying.... but... u just know..
oh and yes ur last sentence did make sense :) i cant say that ive actually told anyone in proper words and sentences.. i guess the person just figured it out and i agreed... but we became extremely good friends... even during my school years, people did admit to one another and in the end the friendship just grew really strong... i believe its totaly up to the person themselves how they react to the situation... my best friend is opposite to me... she will totally block the person out if she senses feelings.. whereas me being the dumb nut i am... becomes friends..
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i can understand what u r saying...i guess i'm more like your friend where if i have NO feelings for that person, then i will block him out of my life! but if there is some attraction but it just can't go anywhere, then i don't mind being friends, cuz i know that it can't go anywhere :(
its ok na… i think most people do block people out.. im just crazy and like to counsel people.. trust me im just wierd… 
so dont mind anything i say.. pls pls pls
don’t worry sadzzz, i already knew you were weird! thats why we’re friends silly! 
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don't worry sadzzz, i already knew you were weird! thats why we're friends silly! ;)
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haha awwww that makes me feel special..
dont worry.. everyone thinks im wierd and they dont understand my logic.. hehe
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haha awwww that makes me feel special..
dont worry.. everyone thinks im wierd and they dont understand my logic.. hehe
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i'm just kidding!
and you are definitely not weird in your way of thinking...
i think its nice and you are nice for wanting to help the person!!!
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i'm just kidding!
and you are definitely not weird in your way of thinking...
i think its nice and you are nice for wanting to help the person!!!
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nahin heheh... im wierd thaz all :)
hey ziddee.. we've taken over the thread!!
u know wat would be awesome? if there could be a way to find out how the guy feels… 
you are NOT weird…take that back!!!
and about taking over the thread…OOPS!!! sowwy!
me going now! 
Reemzy - u wanna know how the guy feels??? well, he feels flattered and thats all!!! he can’t think anything beyond that!
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nahin heheh... im wierd thaz all :)
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its all good sadzzz... ;)