The Virtues Of Raising A Daughter

Very often parents express extreme joy and happiness at the birth of a baby and feel sad and disheartened at the birth of a girl. We should always remember that children are a gift from Allah. Whether a child is a girl or a boy, parents should show their appreciation and be grateful to Allah Ta’ala for blessing them with a child who increases the Ummah of our beloved Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam).

In a Hadith, it is mentioned that the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam) said: “When a female child is born, Allah Ta’ala sends his angels to that house. They come to the dwellers of that house and pray that peace may be upon them. The angels then cover the newly born girl in the shadow of their wings and caressing the bead of the baby with their bands say that this is a weak and frail person. Whoever with bear the responsibility of her cherishment will go on having the blessing of Allah Ta’ala as long as that person remains alive.” (Moa’jam-us-Saghir)

Hadhrat Anas (Radhi Allahu anhu) narrates that the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam) said: “Whoever maintains two girls until they attain maturity, he and l will arrive on the Day of Judgement like this; he joined his two fingers.” (Muslim)

It is mentioned in a Hadith from Hadhrat Aisha (Radhi Allahu anha) that a woman came to her along with her two daughters. She asked Hadhrat Aisha (Radhi Allahu anha) for charity, but she found nothing except one date, so she gave her the date. That woman accepted it and hen divided it between her two daughters, the mother did not take a hare of the date. She then got up and went out with her two daughters. In the meantime, the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam) visited Hadhrat Aisha (Radhi Allahu anha) and she narrated the whole story to the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam). Thereupon the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam) said: “He who is involved in he responsibility of bringing up daughters and he accords benevolent treatment towards; them, there would be protection for him against the fire of Hell.” (Agreed upon)

In another Hadith from Hadhrat Aisha (RadW Allahu anha), it is mentioned that once a poor woman came to her along with her two dughters. Hadhrat Aisha (Radhi Allahu anha) gave her three dates. She gave each of the daughters one date and took one for herself. She was about to eat the date when one of her daughters expressed the desire to eat that date and she immediately shared the date among the daughters. This kind treatment of that woman impressed Hadhrat Aisha Radhi Allahu anha) and she related the whole incident to the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam). After listening to the whole story, the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu aihe wasallam) said: “Verily, Allah is assured Paradise for her because of this act or has rescued her from the fire of Hell.”

Maxim boy,

Good post, i reckon you should print out thousands of copies and distribute them to the parents who think like this, only then they might rethink before being disheartened about a girl being born. However it will probably be to no avail as this type of thinking is embedded in them so much they just cant let go of it.

The question becomes, then, is faith in religion strong enough to effect the masses? Can you convince a family who earnestly believes that a daughter is a bad thing to instead realize what a joy in their life a new child really is? Especially if that family is not strongly religious?

Masses, religion and ndividuals. Its never comes togather. When ever there is a bad thing its the individual, if its a good thing then its not the individual but the religion.

Its like Ibn-e-Sina was a good "Muslim" scienctist and Hjaj-bin-Yosef was a bad person.

and....Masses, they are just seen at sundays in Vatican and Fridays in Macca.

Very often parents express extreme joy and happiness at the birth of a baby and feel sad and disheartened at the birth of a girl.<<<

when you say a “baby” do you mean only a “boy”?

this is where the whole mindset thing comes into play. It is quite common to hear answers to the question: “How many kids do you have?”

“I have 4 Kids and 2 Girls” implying that Girls are somehow not Kids.

Very sad indeed.