The trial period

[nia_khan]

Re: The trial period

@armughal

this is why i like the arab tradition…

in their “engagement” they actually do the nikaah, so after the “engagement” the man and woman r legally husband and wife but they dont live together, just go out for a couple of hours and spend the time together to get to know each other…
and when they thnk they r ready for “marriage”, the “rukhsati” takes place…

and in case they dont think they can live with each other, they go thru divorce, but the divorce document mentions that the “rukhsati” did not take place…

that is very good…

on my mariage, even after the nikaah (which was ouple of days before rukhsati) i was not allowed to be alone with my wife…

*lahaolawalakoowaat…

[Sohaib]

Re: The trial period

I belong to a semi-conservative family. My immediate family and siblings are quite open. One side of the family is quite modern and other relatives are extremely religiuos.

When a rishta comes along through one side of the family who also has some links with other modern part of the relatives, it is always awkward to anticipate what kind of people are they. If given the chance, I will have an informal meeting but considering these factors, dont have such luxuries.

So as much as I would like to get to know her better before making a decision, I know i have limited options; email/chat or phone if i am luckier.

[Sadiyah]

Re: The trial period

I suppose the whole nikkah thing and then learning about your spouse would be good in late stages, otherwise you'd have people married over 10 times or so.

Aside from that, the idea of having lunch and perhaps some conversations over the phone sounds good. However, I don't think my family would allow conversing with the prospespective alone in a separate room or going out for lunch.