brothers/parents sending Eidee to their married sisters/daughters. I don’t know how prevalent it is in pakistani culture, but in my family I’ve always seen my dad sending money from here to pakistan for his sisters. And as for the phupho that is here, we’ve sometimes given her money or electronics and such things. Once actually, we decided to go traditional and packed savayyaN, daaleiN, chawal, dry fruits wagaira, and tied them in a “paNdd” (in a chaddar) and went over her house. My brother actually carried the thing on his head and gave it to her. It was really funny and cute.
So yeah traditionally in pakistan, it’s usually clothes, and food goods given to sisters, but here demands are a lil different so you tend to go that way. Anyhow, i think it’s a really special tradition and should be cherished and kept alive.
Anyone else does that in their family, or has seen it done?
I think its done in majority of families (I am want to say 90%+ but I wont :p ). I have yet to see a family who doesnt do it, but then...most families I know are pretty paindo..including mine. Who in their right mind wouldnt give eidi to their daughters or sisters! Although the whole sawaiyan-mehndi thing is usually done for first couple of eids after the girls wedding (in my family atleast). After that its money + clothes.
We were a bit late for my sisters eidi this year :-\
My mother gets $ from her father and brothers its a hefty amount but it can add up for the father and brothers, as she has three sisters. My dad on the other hand has only one sister and her Eidee really adds up, she gets rich off of the lavish gifts her brothers and parents give her.
That doesnt happen in my immediate family between siblings. It might have before but I dont recall it. We tend to give eachother money if we feel the other sibling needs it or as a gift, throughout the year, not specifically for Eid. I think the issue might be that we are often not together on Eid these past few years, but still, my brothers did not send me eidi. I wasnt aware that its a tradition, and have never really asked my father if he sends it to his bros/sisters. It's my parents that give it to us in my family. So this is all news to me. smile
there is also another .. at marriage time of sending the food to sister's house .. I didn't know it till my sister got married and the elders started packing some stuff and i wanted to know why and they said it will go to our Phuppo's..
Yes PA thats a little weird. Day after the wedding naashta goes from the girls parent's house. Doesn't make much sense but people follow it religiously.
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there is also another .. at marriage time of sending the food to sister's house .. I didn't know it till my sister got married and the elders started packing some stuff and i wanted to know why and they said it will go to our Phuppo's..
Weird.
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This sounds like a punjabi tradition. In your case phuphoo is in the same mohalla or village so makes more sense. but I am familiar with a similar tradition in Indian punjab...when baraat goes to girl's village, they know if some girl from groom's village is married in this village...every time they start meal they send some to that girl's home...very similar to sending to sister's.
Sehar: I feel that Shabe-raat is celebrated in Pakistan very similar to Diwali in India and your sending of Eidee to daughter's home is very much same as LohRi in North India. I remember being sent to deliver some sweets, clothes etc on LohRi to my sister's place when I was in my teens.. Since in Indian Punjab daughters are not married in the same mohalla or village, one can find those panDs going on buses and trains just before lohRi day. It is like emergency delivery just in time of LohRi.:-) I like your istyle of packaging all gifts in one panD...very traditional.:)
This sounds like a punjabi tradition. In your case phuphoo is in the same mohalla or village so makes more sense. but I am familiar with a similar tradition in Indian punjab...when baraat goes to girl's village, they know if some girl from groom's village is married in this village...every time they start meal they send some to that girl's home...very similar to sending to sister's.
The marriage tradition that you mentioned, i've seen it happen with a little bit of variation. When a baraat (jaNj) is going to a pind where there's already a pind di dhee wed there...in the varee, they also take kapray for the pind di dhee. My dadi ammi says, pind diyaN kurriyaN vi dheeyaN dhiyaniyaN hundiya ne.
Sehar, exactly that too..I only mentioned part of what goes on...pind dian kuRian bhehna hundian ne has been an old Punjabi thing...No one married with in the same pind in past amongst sikhs and Hindus...even Muslims in united Punjab days were not big time into marrying with in family....within family but if possible not in the same pinD.
hunn waqat badl gaye..hunn te sikh vi apnay pinD dian kuRiyan naal viaah karn lagg paye ne....saaday zamaanay ch line maar sakday se par viaah nai...kai var jehRi kuri te line maarday si 2/3 saal akhir te ussday viah te bhai bann ke sewa karni paindi si baraatiaN di...sarasar zulam.
wait till you are and if your bros still don’t send you eidi tou they are kanjoos 