How people do it? How do people control their emotions so well that no can tell if they’re mad or not.
I cant… I get totally emotional and regret it later..I dont regret what I did..but I hate that people know when they get to me.
**1. Upbringing
2. The person they become out of their experiences.
For me I would have to say was number 1.
Where I come from, show of anger is considered
a sign of weakness, looking for ways to resolve the issue
and to deal with the anger a strength. For this reason
it has always come very natural to me not to put
on a show and tell at those times when I do get upset/angry.
Things did change though once I got married. There
were other people involved now besides myself,
those who I hold near and dear
above all others and everything else. I could see
that there was room for error on my part now.
I know that there are certain errors which a person
should never learn to afford in a marriage, misunderstanding
being the worst of them. I didn't want that. Not coming
from the same place as me, they could not fully
see things as I was raised to see, and I didn't expect
them to. It would have been very unfair and selfish
on my part. I always
believed both people should grow together when they get
married and for the better. And only for that reason
I've learnt to not put up an steel~like facade infront
of those who can help me get over the anger. With
everyone else though, I'm still the person I was before
and I know I always will be.**
My friends accuse me of that all the time, they dont know when I'm upset or they say "you never seem to get angry", which is not true.
Upbringing and my social environment is the reason I am like that. I've also worked on it to some degree, but this doesnt mean that certain ppl dont know what I am feeling, or that at times my feelings dont show.
Hmmm... in my family we always express what we feel ..
not exactly put on a show but we talk things through...
yeah i'm like that too. I'm always very calm in situations where other people seem to blow up. i think i would be good in emergency situations like if my arm got chopped off (for instance). I'd think, "Oh darn...this is not good." People have told me that they've never seen me mad. I think it's just a personality trait some people have. I should take up poker!!
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Where I come from, show of anger is considered
a sign of weakness, looking for ways to resolve the issue
and to deal with the anger a strength.
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I agree with this quote because to me losing your tempor is losing control. I'm the tye of person who doesn't want to show weakness and i want to maintain control. I was raised to be strong also, by a Pathan dad.
I dunno getting mad is ok and sometimes very necessary! lol
Anyone who never ever gets mad I'd be very suspicious of!
I've met people like that thinking ..wow~! Only to find out they have horrible tempers which they only let out on the people they care for most?! instead of in public!
It's not getting angry that's bad it's how you deal with the situations that make you so in the first place..and I guess whether the situation is even worth fussing over.
A true test of one's character is not when they are happy and things are calm ..it's when their world has gone straight to hell and nothing is going right!
Often you don't even need that... just try disagreeing with someone over even the stupidist thing .. like who smells more lol
or why you are you so clumsy!?
or what's for dinner!?
Some time it helps if a person can hide his emotions but not all times.
But one should try to control his/her feeling, to show right emotions at the right time. For instance if i am angry with some one, then i may not show it straight away but i will wait for the right time and surroundings to show it. Some times the right time is that particular moment so then no need for restraint
Never the less Anger management is neccessary for everyone. The person who gets angry easily is a real turn-off.
Oh well same here , i can't hide my emotions at all :o specially when i am mad .
^thank god there someone else outthere like me
i never seem to control my emotions.. i mean even though i dont react .. it all shows on my face!! .. its so horrible at times.. even at times like when i dont want to put up a show or sumthin.. people always seem to gather that m upset ... i just dont kno how to stop showing my feelings on face!!!
^ you are so like me 
Re: The Steel Face
I’m pretty much the same way. I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I have been told not to do so but I can’t help it sometimes because I think it is normal as a human being to display emotions. Why hide them with family, friends, and those you care about? If they care about you in turn, then they will accept you for your worthiness and honesty in expressing them. I am a full believer in that. With outsiders, it is different though since I don’t show much emotion to them no matter what. My emotions are not for people who are mere acquaintances that come and go in life and don’t hold much meaning.
Also I have come across some people that are cold as steel with their emotions and put up imaginary walls. I feel very sorry for them for not having the ability to feel.
