The Soft Side of You....Gone Forever?

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^ :rotfl:

If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?
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;)

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During my early age, I was a weird person. I KNOW I SAID "WAS". You have a problem with that?

ufff aaj kaal ki larkyia .... :smack:
ufff aaj kaal ki larkyia .... :smack:
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… that’s coming from the person who claimed to be among the founders of GS … ohhhhhhh no :bummer: now i know what it meant when people say stuff like , GS kaa tou allah heee hafiz ho

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I guess it's a protective mechanism. We go through a particularly difficult time and we build a wall around that part of us so as not to face similar circumstances again.

But if these walls are so weak that they can be cracked with the slightest of effort like inventory, then why do they come across as such strong barriers?

Tariq,

once weird, always weird.

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illusions,

if your fort looks imposing that anyone attacking it thinks twice about it, then it does not matter whether its made of paper mache, it has served its purpose.

In the end you deal with your demons, but having a fort helps ensure that you are the only one dealing with it and not dealing with others.

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Guess it doesn't help if your fort is highly intimidating and the people around you are insecure to begin with......

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I found your last question a bit amusing.

You are putting a "stronger, more focused" person right on the opposite side of a "harsh realist". What is your reason for that? Personally, I think, a harsh realist will have much more tendency to be a stronger, more focused person as well.

Putting myself on the dissecting table, I see myself as a soft-cored person. However, over time I have also become a realist. Experiences in my life made me a realist but did not harden my core beliefs. Being a realist, helps me avoid letting people exploit my weaknesses. Not letting people exploit your weaknesses is not equal to becoming insensitive/hardened.

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friends..insecure or secure, always have a secret pathway.

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Oye undisclosed gender, chup kar…

Yaar when did I say that I was the founding member. GS is in operation from 1995 or earlier. I joined in 1997 for the first time

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Stronger? Yes. Focused? Yes. Harsh Realist.. not quite, but not as naive anymore either. Still stupid to make the same mistakes again? Yes :bummer:

Heres an analogy: Everytime our bodies get sick, its due to a newer virus. Very rarely do people get sick twice because of the same virus. Thats because our bodies adapt everytime theyre under attack by a new virus. We’re down for a few days because our bodies go on minimal life support and divert all energy to developing an antivirus and fighting the virus. Our bodies heat up (hence the aik sau chaar bukhaar) so as to provide the virus with a hostile environment so it can die faster. Clever, eh? In the end our bodies come out strong enough never to be penetrated by that same virus again.

Easier said than done, but very similary its important to train our minds to keep adapting to newer strikes, keep learning from every experience and every mistake. Its okay to be down for a while because thats the time our minds take to rebuild.

I just feel it is being a bit unfair to ourselves to lose all hope altogether. Sometimes it helps to remember that Allah gives His subjects only as much load as they can handle, not an ounce more. So if we’re still alive and sane and breathing, we haven’t seen the worst yet.

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I dont think the softer side of me is gone, but I guess I only expose that side of me to certain ppl otherwise I can act like a witch to others (if they deserve it).

But I think u always get a reality check sometimes when ppl say something and it's like hold on... and then it toughens u up for a bit. But these barriers are easily broken till the next experience comes along

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Its impossible to answer this without writing a novel.
but yeh I feel like some events having taken my innocence and hardened me.

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Only our preception change.